想要幸福長久的戀情?避免這些常見的錯誤吧

1. Radiating a cold shoulder

1. 表現出一副愛理不理的樣子

Simply put: radiating a cold shoulder toward your SO does nothing but waste time and energy and create unnecessary frustration. Although relationships would be much easier if we were all mind readers, unfortunately that's not the case. Therefore, it is critical in any partnership to regularly voice concerns. By speaking up instead of staying silent or walking away, you and your partner will have a deeper understanding of each other's needs and will essentially prevent built-up anger and/or resentment.

簡單而言，對另一半愛理不理只會浪費時間和精力、造成不必要的失意。如果我們能讀懂人心，那談戀愛就會容易很多，但不幸的是，我們都不會讀心術。因此，在任何一段戀情中，定期表達自己的關切至關重要。大聲說出自己的感受，不要冷戰或者走開，這樣你和你的另一半就能更深入的瞭解彼此的需求，最終可以預防內心的憤怒和/或憎恨。

2. Threatening the "B" word

2. 威脅分手

When tensions flare and the claws of emotions come out, many of us have a tendency to say things we don't really mean. But threatening to break up during a heated argument will only do harm to your relationship. Once these words have been said, guards will immediately go back up and the trust you two share will inevitably start to crack. So whether or not you have to grit your teeth and count to five (or 10 . . . or 100), hold your tongue, because without a firm foundation of trust, no relationship will ever withstand the test of time.

局勢劍拔弩張、不滿情緒爆發之際，很多人往往說出一些並非本意的話語。但在爭吵激烈之際，拿分手威脅對方只會損害你們的感情。一旦說出分手，你們就會立刻警覺，彼此間的信任也勢必破裂。所以無論如何你都得咬緊牙關，數五聲（或十聲、一百聲），剋制自己，因爲彼此不信任的感情經不起時間的考驗。

3. Comparing your relationship with someone else's

3. 將自己的感情與他人作比較

There's no doubt Theodore Roosevelt was onto something when he stated, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Whether you're comparing for good or evil, using another relationship as a measuring stick for your own is a dangerous habit and should be avoided at all costs. Remember: looks can be deceiving.

毫無疑問，當西奧多·羅斯福說這句話的時候，他肯定有自己的想法，"攀比是偷走快樂的賊。"不管你是好心還是惡意，用另一段感情與自己的感情作對比都是一個危險的習慣，應不惜一切代價避免這一陋習。記住：外表可能會欺騙你。

4. Taking your SO for granted

4. 理所當然的享受另一半的好

We all know the saying, "You don't know what you have until it's gone." Yet, we continue to take for granted the very people that deserve our utmost gratitude. Why? Well, we forget to stop and think what life would be like if we did lose those loved ones. And when we do contemplate this scenario, it's usually a little too late.

我們都知道這句話，'失去了才知道曾經擁有的。'但我們仍繼續理所當然的享受另一半的好，卻忘了最該感激的人也是她/他。爲什麼？因爲我們忘記停下來思考，思考如果失去所愛之人，我們的生活會變成什麼樣子。當我們真的在沉思這一問題時，往往都已爲時晚矣。

My advice? Express love and express it often. Don't wait for Thanksgiving or the holiday season to give thanks. Show appreciation on a daily basis. Not only will this make you and your SO happier individuals, but it will strengthen your relationship, too.

我的建議？表達你的愛意，而且要時不時的表達。不要等到感恩節或是各種節日纔對所愛之人表示感謝。每天都表示出對他/她的欣賞。這樣做不僅能讓你和另一半更開心，而且還能鞏固你們的感情。