家長和孩子Parents and Kids

          Many parents who welcome the idea of turning off TV and spending more time with the family are still worded that without TV they would constantly be on call as entertainers for their children. They remember thinking up all sorts of things to do when they were kids. But their own kids seem different,less  resourceful,  there's nothing to do,these parents observe regretfully, their kids seem unable to come up with anything to do besides turning on TV.
         One father, for example, says,"When I was a kid, we were always thinking up things to do. We certainly never complain in an annoying way to our parents: '1 have nothing to do! ' "He compares this with his own children today:"They're simply lazy. If someone doesn't entertain them, they' II hap-pily sit there watching TV all day."
        There is one word for this father's disappointment: unfair. He deplores his children' s lack of inventiveness, as if the ability to play were something innate that his children are missing. In fact, while the tendency to play is built into the human species, the actual ability--to imagine, to invent, toelaborate--and the ability to gain fulfillment from it are skills that have to be learned and developed.
         Such disappointment, however, is not only unjust, it is also destructive. Sensing their parents' disappointment, children come to believe that they are, indeed, lacking something, and that this makes them less worthy of admiration and respect. Giving children the opportunity to develop new re-sources, to enlarge their horizons and discover the pleasures of doing things on their own is, on the other hand, a way to help children develop a confident feeling about themselves as capable and interesting people. 
     誰歡迎關掉電視，花更多時間與家人的想法，許多家長仍然措辭，沒有電視，他們會不斷地對演員的要求爲他們的子女。他們當時想了各種各樣的事情做的時候，他們的孩子。但他們自己的孩子似乎不同，財力稍遜，沒有什麼做，這些家長觀察遺憾的是，他們的孩子似乎無法提出任何事情要做，除了在電視上轉變。
     一個父親，例如，說：“當我還是孩子的時候，我們總是想最多的事情要做。當然，我們從不抱怨，在一個惱人的方式我們的父母：'1無關！”他說這就好比他的今天自己的孩子：“他們只是懶惰。如果有人不招待他們，他們'二廈門，棉花的坐在那裏整天看電視。”
     有一個詞這個父親的失望：不公平的。他譴責他的孩子們的創造性的缺乏，彷彿可以玩的東西與生俱來的，他的孩子失蹤。事實上，儘管遊戲的趨勢是將人類的興建，實際能力 - 想象，發明，toelaborate - 並能夠從中獲益完成的技能必須學習和發展。
      這樣的失望，但是，不僅是不公正的，也是破壞性的。遙感父母的失望，兒童來相信他們的確是缺少了點什麼，而這使他們少值得欽佩和尊重。讓兒童有機會發展新的重複資源，以擴大他們的視野，發現自己做事情的樂趣是，另一方面，這是一種幫助孩子自我發展的能力和有趣的人自信的感覺。