積極生活的7個方法

1. Face your fears. But do it in small steps.
This is one of the best ways to overcome fears and get out of your comfort zone. What holds us back in our zone of comfort is often a fear or that facing that fear straight on might be overwhelming. This is a solution to those two problems. It allows you to stretch your comfort zone slowly making it less uncomfortable and frightening.
If you’re for instance nervous socially you might not feel able to ask people out on dates right away. The fear of being rejected and that others might think less of you if you get turned down can make many of us feel unable to ask the question.
So you take small steps instead. Steps like first just saying hi to people. Or starting to talk more to people online via forums and Instant Messaging. And then trying to be more involved in conversations at work or in school to exercise your conversation-muscles.
I guess one could say that you gradually de-sensitize yourself to social situations or whatever you are afraid of. Or, seeing it in a more motivating light, that you are building courage and expanding your comfort zone in this part of your life (which is something that often seeps over to other areas of life too.)
So, identify your fear. Then make a plan with some smaller steps you can take to gradually lessen your discomfort.
1. 學會逐步面對自己的恐懼　

這是克服恐懼且懼擺安逸環境最好的辦法。我們一直呆在溫室的原因通常就是恐懼，且在直面恐懼的時候會感到害怕。針對上述問題有一個解決的方案，會讓你漸漸脫離安逸，且你會覺得安逸不再那麼舒服，甚至開始對其感到厭惡。　

假如你有社交恐懼，你不敢當即要別人約定好會談的日期見面，害怕被拒絕，怕被別人看不起，一旦被拒絕也許就再不敢詢問問題了。因此你要慢慢克服，開始時可以先和別人打招呼或在網上論壇多和別人聊聊天，發發信息，然後漸漸地開始在工作上和別人多聊天，在學校的時候和別人多進行交談。

我猜此時肯定會有人對說，你不像以前那樣對公共社交場所那麼敏感，或你對以前一些你感到恐懼的東西不再那麼害怕了，看到你所取得的這些成就就會使你更有前進的動力，此時的你開始有勇氣，不再害怕以前你所害怕的事情，你建立和擴大了你的勇氣（生活中其他的事情也諸如此）

面對你的恐懼，你必須知道你畏懼的是什麼，然後開始指定一些小計劃來慢慢減緩不適。

2. Try something weird.
One obvious way to move out of your comfort zone is to do something new. But a more interesting option might be to think of doing something weird. When you choose something new you may choose something that is line with your personality. So your experiences can become limited. Instead, choose something that’s out of character for you. Something that isn’t you as you are right now. Something that you – and/or the people close to you – wouldn’t think that you would do.
2. 嘗試一些離奇想法　
很明顯每個人都想脫離安逸，開始新生活。但也許你有一些更加離奇的想法，你想做一些與衆不同的事。可以選擇一些和你個人特質一致的事。或許你的經歷非常有限，乾脆你就選擇一些和你性格格格不入的事，一些並不適合你做的事情，別人從未想過你會去做的事。

3. Make a new acquaintance.
This will expose your to new experiences, opinions and interests. And it’s not just about meeting new people the usual way. Try just picking up a biography about someone you know nothing about. Start reading a book from a writer you haven’t read before. Read about a random topic at Wikipedia. Or add an unexpected RSS-feed about something you normally never read about.
3. 創建一個新的認知　　
這可以讓你有一些新經歷，新觀點和新的興趣。這並不是以普通的方式來結識新朋友。當你開始學習你之前一無所知的地理知識，閱讀一本你不認識的作者所撰寫的書籍。在維基百科上面隨意看一些你從未看過的話題，或在RSS閱讀器上面瀏覽一些你從未看的東西。

4. Take a friend with you.
In general, it’s often easier to not go it alone. And this applies to many situations. Including when you are going for the emotional bungee jump that getting out of your comfort zone can be.

I’d say this probably the most popular way to get yourself out of comfort zones. If you are going to a party where you know few people then it may be easier to bring a friend. If you have decided to start going to the gym it might be easier to actually get going and keeping going there every week if you have a gym-partner.

However, there are potential downsides to bringing friends too. If you are at the party with your friend then you might not meet and get to know that many new people. If you are going to the gym with a partner it might lead to the two of you talking and focusing less on getting a great workout.
4. 讓朋友待在你的身邊。　　
和朋友在一起通常能讓事情比單獨進行更加順利。這是被證實了的。包括，你離開安逸窩到戶外進行激動人心的蹦級。
這也許是你脫離安逸窩最好的方法。在你認識不多人的一個聚會，你朋友可以幫你認識更多朋友。若你決定去體育場進行運動，和朋友在一起你會更容易付出行動，如果你有一個運動夥伴的話，你會每週都和你同伴一起出去進行運動。
但和朋友在一起也有不好的地方。如果在聚會上你和你的朋友老呆在一起的，你就不會認識更多的新朋友。如果你和你朋友去體育場鍛鍊，你也許只會和你的朋友聊天，而不會專注下去。

5. Educate yourself.

Your comfort zone might be protecting your from imaginary dangers. Maybe things aren’t as difficult or scary as you imagine? Do a bit of research. Getting some good information can dissipate quite a bit of your fear and nervousness.
Do a bit of Googling. Read books and blogs. Ask someone who has been there before. By reading/hearing about what others that have done the same thing you are about to do saw, heard, felt and did you can not only lessen negative feelings but also get some very valuable and practical tips.
5. 自我教育
你的安逸窩可能會保護你不受那些預料中的危險。興許事情沒有你想象的那麼糟糕呢？做一些調查。一些有用的信息可以幫助你擺脫恐懼和憂慮。

去谷 Google 上做調查，讀讀書，看看博客，問問一些和你有相同經歷的人。不僅可以幫助你緩解你的消極情緒，你還可以從中獲取一些很實際且寶貴的建議。

Realise it can be fun to get out of your comfort zone despite what your mind and feelings might be telling you before you get started. Think back to the previous times when you have broken out of your comfort zone. Focus on the positive memories, when you got out there, when you took a chance. And it wasn’t so bad, it was actually fun and exciting and something new to you.

A lot of times we automatically play back our negative experiences – or negative interpretations of events – in our minds before we are about to do something. And we forget about the positive memories and our previous, positive achievements. Avoid that trap. Let the good memories flow through your mind instead and let things become easier.
6 讓你的大腦充斥積極的回憶

若你能意識到這點，不管你在此之前有什麼想法和感情都可以助你逃離安逸。想想以前那些脫離安逸的經歷。當你脫離安逸，你抓住機遇的時，可以想一想那些積極的回憶。事實上，情況沒你想象的那麼糟，它很有趣，很激動人心，它會讓你感到新鮮有趣。

我們做事情前的很多情況下，都在不斷重複一些消極的經歷——或想一些消極的事。我們忘記了那些積極的回憶和我們過去的成就。我們應當避免陷進去。只有讓你的腦中充滿美好回憶，纔會使事情變更簡單易行。

Besides remembering positive memories, there are a whole bunch of things you can do to pump up your emotional state temporarily. Here is a small list of such tips within in this list:

Use Music. Listen to uplifting and motivational music.
Use Your Body. How you use your body affects how you feel. Move in a confident way and you’ll soon feel more confident. Move in an excited way and you’ll soon feel more excited.
Use Your Imagination. Close your eyes. Visualize how great everything will unfold. How wonderful and excited you will feel. This is a whole lot more useful than seeing in your mind how everything will turn out badly.
Use Guided Meditation. I like Talking to Win and Self-Esteem Supercharger by Learning Strategies. They are useful for giving you a positive boost for a couple of days.

Use Your Breathing. Not exactly a way to pump yourself up but rather to calm yourself down quickly. Have a look at Here´s a Quick Way to Better Breathing.
7 用其他的方法給自己打氣
　　
除那些美好回憶外，還有很多可以喚起你激情的事。下面是一些例子：
　　
音樂——聽能夠提升鬥志的音樂。
身體——讓你的身體影響你的感受。充滿信心的行動可以讓你更加有自信。如果你的身體有前進的激情，你就會感受到。
想象——閉上眼睛。想想你如何見證那些偉大事情的發生。那時的你有多麼美妙和激動人心的感觸。腦海中這些積極的事情比消極的事情對你更有幫助。
冥想——我喜歡通過“淺談成功”和“淺談自尊”來學習一些新戰略。他們能給你一些積極啓發。
呼吸——它也許不是激勵你的方法，但呼吸可以很快讓你冷靜下來。