生活智慧:如何得到你想要的一切

Getting what you want in your career and in life isn't as difficult as it may seem. I mean it.

在你的事業和生活中得到你想要的並不像看起來那麼困難。我說真的。

Here's a sneak peak at how you can be successful in everything you do:

這裏來一窺究竟如何在你所做的一切事情上獲得成功：

Listen First and Never Stop Listening

Listening is the single-Most important skill in professional and personal relationships. Most people have their own agenda and are too busy talking (or waiting to talk) to listen to you. If you, unlike most people, can truly listen with empathy, then people will like you--and eventually help you get what you want.

首先要傾聽，永遠不要停止傾聽

在職業和個人關係上傾聽是唯一最重要的技能。大多數人都有自己的行程，忙着談話(或等待說話)以至於不能傾聽你。如果你，不像大多數人一樣，而是可以感同身受地真正傾聽，那麼人們就會喜歡你，最終幫助你得到你想要的。

Help Others

When you want something from someone, instead of asking for it, help that person get what he or she wants. If you don't know what he or she wants, then simply ask, "How can I help you?" Since so many people are out to only help themselves, when you genuinely seek to help others succeed in their goals and dreams, you'll stand out. And those people you genuinely help will in turn fight to help you succeed and give you everything you want. Help others first, without expecting anything--and the returns will be enormous.

幫助別人

當你想從別人那裏得到什麼東西，而非要求，幫助那個人得到他或她想要的。如果你不知道他或她想要的，然後簡單地問，“我怎樣才能幫助你？”既然如此多的人只會去幫助他們自己，當你真正尋求幫助別人成功實現他們的目標和夢想時，你就會脫穎而出。那些你真正幫助的人將反過來努力幫助你成功，給你想要的一切。先幫助別人，不期待任何東西，回報將是巨大的。

Be Yourself: Authentic, Transparent, and Vulnerable

authenticity, transparency, and vulnerability all breed trust. And when people trust you, they'll do anything for you. Open up to people, and take a chance, and you'll be rewarded.

做你自己：真實、透明以及脆弱

真實、透明和脆弱都能滋生信任。當人們信任你，他們會爲你做任何事。向他人敞開心胸，並抓住機會，你會有收穫。

Inject Passion Into Every Interaction

Passion is contagious, but so is lack of passion. If you're not passionate about what you're talking about, why should someone else care? If you want something, you must be more excited and dedicated to it than anyone else.

爲每一次互動注入激情

激情是會傳染的，但缺乏激情也是一樣。如果你對你談論的東西缺乏激情，別人爲什麼要在乎呢？如果你想要什麼，你必須更加興奮，比任何人都要奉獻更多。

Surprise and Delight Others

When you surprise and delight others, not only do you make them happy--you remind them that you're the type of person who might surprise and delight them soon again. Some classic examples: bringing home flowers to your wife for "no reason"; telling a customer his order will arrive next week but then overnighting it.

讓他人驚喜和愉悅

當你使他人驚喜和愉悅時，你不僅讓他們快樂——你提醒他們你是那種可能很快又會給他們帶來驚喜和快樂的人。一些經典的例子：“沒有理由”地將一束鮮花帶回家給你妻子，告訴客戶他的訂單下週到然後連夜發過去。

Use The Four Most Important Words in Business and Life

Say "I'm sorry" when you make a mistake and "thank you" as much as you can. These words are so simple, yet so often people overlook the importance of saying them. Just say "I'm sorry" and let another person forgive you, so you can move on, and eventually get what you want. Conversely, sincere gratitude to people is a powerful emotion to convey, and opens up many doors.

在生意和生活中使用最重要的四個單詞

當你犯錯誤時說“對不起”，儘可能多地說“謝謝你”。這些話是如此簡單，然而人們總是忽視說它們的重要性。只要說“對不起”，讓另一個人原諒你，那麼你就可以繼續前進，並最終得到你想要的。相反地，真誠地感謝他人是一種強大的情感傳達，能打開很多扇門。