簡單的快樂:8個好心態,不再和別人比較
Awareness. Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we’re doing it. It’s a natural act, I suppose, and as a result it’s something that is done without consciousness. So the solution is to become conscious — bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it’ll be hard not to notice.
注意它。我們經常沒有意識到這種比較的發生，我認爲這是自然行爲，這是由於有些行爲是無意識的。所以解決辦法是注意它，有意識的留意這種思想出現時的意識變化。如果堅持一段時間注意這種意識的變化，那麼想不注意都不行了，也就容易實踐了。
Stop yourself. Once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.
管住自己：當你意識到自己在進行這種比較時，請自己停下來。不要責備自己或感覺不好，只要意識到自己的想法，並溫和的轉移注意力就可以了。
Count your blessings. A better focus is on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with. Count what you have, not what you don’t. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.
珍惜你所擁有的。一個更好的辦法是看看自己所擁有的，而不是總去想那些自己沒有的。想想你是多麼幸運的擁有了這一切，出現在你生命中珍惜你的和值得你珍惜的人。
Focus on your strengths. Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don’t brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.
重視自己的優點。多注意自己的優點，而不是一直看到弱點。慶幸你所擁有的優點，爲此而自豪！不要驕傲，但可以運用這些優點在工作和生活中做得更加出色。
Be OK with imperfection. No one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection. You aren’t perfect and you never will be. I certainly am not, and I’ve Learned to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don’t think you’ll ever be the “perfect person”. If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.
釋懷那些不完美。事實上，我們都知道沒有人是完美的，但是情感上當沒有達到完美時我們會感覺不好。你不完美，而且永遠也不會完美，我當然也是，但我學會了釋懷那些不完美。當然，繼續努力，但不要總想着你永遠不會完美這件事。如果你能從另一個角度看待它，其實是這些缺點讓你成爲今天的你，這本身就是完美的。
Don’t knock others down. Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. In the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success — that will lead to more success on your part.
不要打擊別人。有時我們會通過批評別人的方式來使自己感覺更好，這種做法是極具破壞性的，這將使你得罪一個人而非得到一個朋友，最後，只是傷害了自己。相反，我們應該在別人取得成績時支持他，這也會使你得到更大的滿足。
Focus on the journey. Don’t focus on how you rank in comparison to others — life is not a competition. It’s a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. That’s all you need to worry about.
注重過程。不要在意你在比較中的排名，生活不是競賽，而是一段旅程。我們都在生活中尋找，努力，學習，創造。別人所擁有和取得的對我們自己的旅程都不重要，自己想要做什麼或想去哪纔是最重要的，這纔是生活要考慮和關注的問題。
Learn to love enough. If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That’s an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own (seven, in the case of one famous candidate), no matter how many fancy cars you acquire … you’ll never have enough. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough. If you have shelter over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed. You have enough. Anything you have over and above that — and let’s admit that all of us reading this blog have more than that — is more than enough. Be good with that, and you’ll find contentment.
學會享受滿足。如果你總是想要別人的東西，那永遠也不會滿足，你總是想要更多，這是一個無休止的循環，你永遠也不會快樂。無論你買多少衣服，有多少房產，有多少靚車，你都不會滿足。相反，去看看自己所擁有的，如果你有一個可遮風擋雨的小窩，豐衣足食，愛着你的人，那麼你很幸運。你擁有的已經足夠了，讓我們承認能夠讀到這篇博文你擁有的已經是非常幸運了。享受這一切，你會更加滿足。
