適當拒絕孩子 Say No Properly

In China nowadays, most families have only one child, who gets more and more attention and love from their parents. Parent always try their best to meet the needs of the child because most of the time they are too busy with their work to stay with the only child. Then more and more parents tend to say "yes" to most of their children's demand as a method to make up for the lack of care. However, it's not a blessing to always say "yes" to children.

如今在中國，因爲很多家庭只有一個孩子，所以孩子受到父母更多的關心和愛護。父母會想方設法滿足孩子的需要，因爲大多時間他們都忙於工作，很少有時間陪孩子。所以父母會對孩子的大部分要求都點頭同意，來彌補缺失的關心。然而事事都依着孩子，並不是對其真正的關懷。

Indulgence from parents is very likely to throw bad influence on their children. For one thing, the only child of a family has difficulty distinguishing right and wrong. They used to get "yes" from others. Therefore, once they are refused, they will feel angry because in their mind, nobody can say "no" to them. Now, there are many bad events that youngsters hurt or kill others just because they are another thing, children will form the habit of getting something for nothing. They take everything they get for granted with no gratitude. They have formed the view that their parents have the duty to buy everything for lly, most of the only children are selfish. Being the only child in the family, they needn't share anything with other, so usually they don't realize the importance of share.

父母的溺愛很有可能對孩子造成不良影響。一方面，獨生小孩子缺乏對錯的判斷力。他們習慣從父母那得到順從。所以一旦他們遭到拒絕會很生氣，因爲在他們印象中，沒人對他們說不。如今有很多年輕人傷害或殺人的惡性事件發生，就是因爲他們遭到拒絕。另一方面，孩子會養成不勞而獲的習慣。他們視自己所得爲理所當然，沒有一絲感激。他們形成父母有義務爲他們買任何東西的觀念。另外，獨生子一般很自私，家裏的獨子沒必要與別人分享什麼，所以他們沒意識到分享的重要性。

In short, parent are supposed to take some effective measures to prevent the negative influences of overindulgence on their children, and parents should bear in mind that it's no good to the children's growth if they always say "yes" to them.

總之，父母應該採取有效措施，抑制過度溺愛對孩子的負面影響，父母也應該意識到一味順從孩子，對他們的成長沒有好處。