雙語職場:同事不喜歡自己該怎麼辦?

Q: I treat my co-workers politely and warmly at work. But many of them don’t like me. I don’t know why and feel distressed.
　問：我在工作中對待同事既友好又熱情，但他們中的許多人卻不喜歡我。我不知道爲什麼並且覺得很苦惱。

A: Have you ever thought about your own attitude at work? Perhaps that is the reason why people do not like you. For many of us it is easy to look at others and blame them instead of ourselves. After all,we are human.
答：你思考過你自己的工作態度嗎？也許這正是人們不喜歡你的原因。對於我們許多人來說，很容易看到他人的錯誤並責怪他們，而不是從自身找原因。畢竟我們都是凡人。

When something doesn’t go the way it is supposed to at work, “Oh, so-and-so didn’t do this and that”. Often times you forget your own roles that you did not perform. Your attitude is looking at other’s fault first before you point the accusing finger at yourself.　　
當一些本該完成的工作偏離了正常軌道時，“噢，那個誰和那個誰沒有做這個和那個”。你經常會忘記你自己沒有履行的職責，而更愛先挑其他人的錯誤，其次才輪到自己。

Perhaps when you realize that people at work do not like you, it is time to look at your own attitude. Have the wisdom and will power to know that you can make a positive change. When you improve yourself, you increase the chances of career success.
　　也許當你意識到在工作中人們不喜歡你時，你應審視自己的工作態度。憑藉智慧和毅力找到你能做出的積極改變。當你完善了自我，邁向職業成功的機會就會增加。

　　The Harder You Try, the Worse It Gets
　　你越努力，情況就變得越糟

There are people whom the harder you try to please, the less they reciprocate in kind. In fact, they treat you worse. You think to yourself, they have a bad attitude at work. And you may be right. But what can you do with your own attitude? In this case, my advice to you is to stop trying to be nice. I am not saying start being I am advocating is to be nonchalant.
　　對於有些人，你越想努力使他們高興，他們越不能以友好態度回報你。事實上，他們對你的態度反而變糟了。你在心裏暗想，他們的工作態度不好。你也許是正確的，但你可以就自己的態度做些什麼呢？在這種情況下，我建議你不要再努力示好。我不是說你應該開始變得讓人討厭，而是主張你要表現得若無其事。

Take a Step Back
　　後退一步

When you are able to detach yourself from it, you begin to see a clearer picture. Think about your attitude at work. Are you being sincere with your words and deeds?
　　當你抽身後退一步時，你就能開始將局面看得更清楚。思考一下你的工作態度。你平時的言行是否誠懇？你能充滿愉悅地工作而不對他人有要求嗎？自我反省並改進你的工作態度。當然，工作態度問題解決起來比較困難。雖然困難，但它並不是不可解決的。有些時候，我們最好從自我做起。