爸媽不喜歡我男朋友,我該怎麼辦?

1. Ask them to be honest about why
1. 讓父母說出不喜歡他的真實理由

When you find out that your parents hate your boyfriend, your first instinct is, most likely, to get really annoyed, upset, and mad at them. You want to ask how they can possibly say this stuff to you and you might even want to stop talking to them for a few days (or even a few weeks). Even though that's how you really want to act, it's not the best idea right now.
當你發現爸媽不喜歡男朋友的時候，你會本能的感到惱火、難過，非常生氣（大多數情況下）。你可能想要問清楚，他們怎麼能對你說出這種話，也可能暫時好幾天都不想理他們（甚至好幾周）。儘管你真的很想這麼做，但這並不是最好的辦法。

They probably have a good reason for saying this to you. Maybe they think that he reminds them of someone that you used to date and that guy wasn't good for you, so they're worried that a similar situation (and a bad break-up) is going to happen again. Maybe they're not sure that he has a good work ethic or that he's close with his family, and those are values that are really important to them.
既然他們都這樣說了，那他們的理由可能也非常充分。也許他們認爲，這個男生讓他們想起了你以前交往過的對象，而那個對象並不適合你，所以他們擔心會重蹈覆轍（分手很難看）。也許他們不瞭解這個男生是否有良好的職業道德，或者他和家人的關係是否親密，因爲這些對於他們而言十分重要。

The best thing that you can do in this situation is to listen carefully to what your mom and dad have to say. You have to be open to their opinions and not get angry or refuse to hear them. At the very least, they'll be happy that you're willing to talk to them about this and be such a good listener.
如果是這種情況，你最好認真地聽他們說說原因。你必須對他們的意見持開放態度，不要一聽某些話就生氣或不想聽。至少，如果你願意和他們聊聊這件事、願意認真聽他們說清原因，他們會很欣慰的。

2. Think about whether they have any good points
2. 好好想想他們說的話在不在理

Just because your parents say that they hate your boyfriend doesn't mean that they're right about him… and it doesn't mean that they're wrong, either. What if what they say has some merit to it? What if he really doesn't have a great work ethic or he's fighting with his parents over something silly and insignificant that shouldn't really be messing up their relationship?
你的父母說他們不喜歡你的男朋友，這並不是說他們就是對的，但也不意味着他們就是錯的。如果他們的理由有道理呢？如果他真的沒有職業操守或者他會爲一些小事而和父母爭吵，以至於他與父母的關係不和呢？

It can be tough to remember, but you can think that a new relationship is super great and all rainbows and butterflies and the people close to you can see the real story of what is actually going on. This is definitely why you wonder why your friends or relatives can't figure out a problem that they're having when it seems so clear to you what decision they should be making.
記住這一點可能很難，但你知道的，剛開始談戀愛的時候那種感覺真的超級棒，一切都是美好的，但旁觀者清啊。就像你有時候會這樣想，爲什麼朋友或親戚就是找不出問題所在呢，明明你一眼就能看清做什麼決定纔是合理的啊。