談戀愛時做這些事會毀了你們的感情
This point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. Like sleeping in a bad position, we sometimes don't realize we're blundering and repeating until the "ouch" factor comes into play.
問題是：女性在談戀愛的時候，會一次又一次的犯這些錯誤。比如睡覺姿勢差，有時候我們並沒有意識到自己正在犯錯，並且一直重複着，直到被逮。Well, it's time to stop. Quitters sometimes prosper, especially when lousy habits get left behind. Here's how to have a healthy relationship and a list of blunders we wish ladies would stop making.
額，是時候停止這些舉動了。放棄有時候會讓你們的感情越來越好，尤其是放棄一些糟糕的習慣時。那怎樣才能擁有健康戀情呢？我們列出了一張清單，希望女同胞們不要再犯這些錯誤了。1. You think you'll never get over him.
1. 你覺得自己永遠都忘不了他。
You will. Two months and several powdered donuts later... you'll feel better.
你會的。兩個月、幾個搽粉甜甜圈之後……你會感覺好些的。2. You hack into his emails or phone looking for suspicious messages.
2. 你查看他的郵件或手機，看看有沒有可疑信息。
And then you yell at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female co-worker two months ago. "k thnx" is not code for "hot steamy sex." (Is it?)
然後你就會衝他大吼，因爲你看到了他兩個月前發給女同事的"k thnx，拜拜"短信。"k thnx"並不是"火熱的性"的編號。（對不？）3. You think he has to be interested in everything you do, think and say.
3. 你認爲他必須對你做的事、想的事、說的事都感興趣。When it comes down to it, we zone out when men talk about circuit boards, right? Having a best friend outside a relationship is a good thing.
談及這一點，當男人談電路板的時候，我們也會走神，對不？戀情之外，還有自己的好朋友也是很重要的。4. You displace your anger.
4. 你轉移了自己的憤怒。Freud was right with this one. If you're mad at him because he ate your tasty leftovers out of the fridge, tell him you're mad at him because he ate your tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge. Don't turn it into a commitment issue.
弗洛伊德對這一點的理解是正確的。如果你因爲他把你放在冰箱裏打包的美味佳餚給吃了而生氣，那就告訴他們你是因爲這個而生氣的。不要把事情轉移到承諾上來。5. You put so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that you're disappointed with anything less.
5. 你太過關注童話般的浪漫，所以你對他的'不浪漫'有點失望。6. You wait for someone to find you, instead of going out and finding someone yourself.
6. 你等待某人找到你，而不是主動去找適合你的那個人。7. You think that a perfect relationship should be easy.
7. 你以爲完美的戀情取之容易。Relationships require work and compromise. A perfect relationship means doing those things well.
戀情需要你們花工夫、需要妥協。完美的戀情意味着你們能很好的做到這一點。8. You drop your friends when you're falling in love.
8. 戀愛的時候，你會拋棄朋友。Friends help define who we are and we need them when things get tough.
朋友能讓我們知道自己是誰，遇到問題時，我們也需要朋友。9. You think that getting a boyfriend or husband will solve all your problems.
9. 你以爲男朋友或老公會幫你解決一切問題。No one can fix our lives for us!
沒有人能解決我們自己生活中遇到的問題。
