這些跡象表明你們的戀情會長長久久

Signs Your Relationship Will Last

這些跡象表明你們的戀情會長長久久

1. You feel comfortable being yourselves around each other.

1. 在一起的時候，你們感覺很自在。

In the early stages of a relationship, people tend to present only the sparkliest versions of themselves, hiding anything that could make them seem less desirable in their partner's eyes. But when you don't feel like you constantly need to impress your partner to earn their affection — because you know this person likes you, warts and all — it bodes well for your future as a couple.

戀情初期，人們往往只展現自己的優點，儘可能地將可能被另一半視作不盡如人意的缺點隱藏起來。但當你覺得不再需要通過給對方留下好印象來贏得他/她好感的時候——因爲你知道他/她喜歡你，不論優缺點——這就是感情發展的好兆頭。

"If you can be yourself and feel comfortable letting your guard down and being you, the relationship is in good shape," said psychologist and sex therapist Shannon Chavez. That also means you feel like you can speak up when something's bugging you, rather than staying quiet or only saying what you think your partner wants to hear.

“如果卸下一身防備，你仍能怡然地做真實的自己，那就表明你們的感情很穩定，”心理學家和性治療師香農·查韋斯（Shannon Chavez）說道。這也意味着當某事困擾你時，你可以盡情說出自己的感受，而非沉默不語或只說些另一半想聽的話。

2. You consistently show up for one another.

2. 你們能言行一致。

You call when you say you're going to call. When you agree to do something, it gets done. If you commit to a plan, your partner knows you'll stick to it and vice versa. You know you can count on each other for things big and small.

當你說你要打電話的時候，你就是去打電話了。當你同意做某事的時候，就會做成這件事。如果你致力於完成一個計劃，你的另一半就會知道你會堅持下去，反之亦然。你們知道，無論事大事小，你們都可以相互信任。

"This indicates that each person is in the right frame of mind for a healthy relationship and that they are both on the same page," said Deborah Duley, a psychotherapist and owner of Empowered Connections, which specializes in counseling for women, girls and the LGBTQ community. "Consistency allows for trust to build, which then allows intimacy to grow because both partners feel safe."

“這表明雙方都心態積極，打算建立一段健康的戀情，且雙方意見一致，”心理學家和Empowered Connections機構的所有人黛博拉·杜萊（Deborah Duley）說道。該機構爲女性、女孩、女同性戀者、男同性戀者、雙性戀者和跨性別者提供諮詢服務。“言行一致會建立信任感。因爲雙方都有了安全感之後，彼此的親密度也會增加。”

3. You sincerely apologize to each other when you've done something wrong.

3. 做錯事的時候，會真心道歉。

And no, "I'm sorry you feel that way" does not count as a genuine apology. Two people who can take responsibility for their missteps, instead of rattling off a bunch of excuses for their behavior, are more likely to move through rough patches without lingering resentments.

“很抱歉讓你這樣想”當然算不上真心道歉。能爲自己的錯誤負責而非找一堆藉口的戀愛雙方更有可能度過磕磕碰碰的時光，而不心存怨恨。

"We all make mistakes, say things we shouldn't have said, and can be selfish at times," Smith said. "A simple, 'I'm sorry' is amazing in how healing it can be for a relationship. If you’ve got a partner who’s willing to say sorry, that's a hard-to-find quality and strength, and you should do all you can to keep them."

“我們都會犯錯，說一些我們不該說的話，有時候也會表現得很自私，”史密斯說道。“一句簡單的對不起就能癒合你們的關係。如果你的另一半願意說對不起，這真的是一個很難得的品質，你應該盡你所能和他/她幸福地生活下去。”