有了這樣的女朋友 你就偷着樂吧
如果你在熱戀中，那就細細品讀一下下面的條目。如果你的女朋友正如下所述，那可一定要抓牢啊！
1. She likes the same things.
她與你嗜好相同。
You both like going to the movies, swimming, and you have pretty similar views on which people should be locked up. Not that you agree on everything, of course, but at least you are on the same track 90% of the time.
看電影、游泳是你們共同的愛好，而且哪些人交往、哪些人不交往這種問題你們都有着相當類似的觀點。當然，不是說你們在所有的事情上都能達到一致，但至少在大部分時間你們有着相同的思維方式。
2. She never interferes with your work.
她從不干涉你的工作。
Yoko Ono (John Lennon’s second wife) once remarked in an interview, “In a way both John and I ruined our careers by getting together.” However, the break up of The Beatles was a complex and long drawn out affair.
小洋野子（約翰?列儂的第二任妻子）曾在一次採訪中說：“約翰和我的婚姻，某種程度上毀了我們的事業。”不過，披頭士的散夥也不是一兩句話能說清的事情。
3. She tells you why she is in a bad mood.
她會告訴你她爲什麼心情不好。
Nobody can be a in a good mood all the time. She tells you why something is wrong, what happened at work to make her mad and why she is in a foul temper. Some people call that real communication.
人人都有情緒低落的時候。她會告訴你事情爲什麼會這樣，工作中發生了什麼讓她抓狂的事情，她爲什麼脾氣暴躁。有些人把這種談話稱爲真正的交流。
4. She loves you for who you are, not for what you do.
她愛你，不是因爲你做了什麼，而是真正的你。
Lots of famous people attract others because of their stardom. Tim Tebow makes it very clear that he wants a kind and sweet girl who is not dazzled by his fame.
很多名人因爲他們的明星身份而受到追捧。提姆·提博明確地說，他想要的是一個不醉心於他聲名的善良而可愛的女孩。
5. She is not trying to change you.
她不試圖改變你。
You know the types who want to mold you into Mr. Perfect. There may be a few things that need fixing, but a great girlfriend adjusts to imperfections and can accept the fact that your hair style is a little bit different or that your weight is over or under a certain limit.
你知道有種女孩希望把你塑造成完美先生。你身上或許有些缺點需要改正，但是真正適合你的女友應去適應你的不完美，並接受你髮型有點怪異或體型不完美的事實。
6. She has no problems with her own body image.
她對自己的形象充滿自信。
She is not trying to change her body all the time. She is not obsessed with dieting or going to the gym. She is perfectly at ease with herself.
她不總是試圖改變自己的形象。她不每天鬧着要節食，也不健身成癖。她不苛求自己。
7. She is not the owner of your free time.
她不會沒完沒了地纏着你。
Basically, she does not complain that you have sixty dozen things on your to do list. She allows you time for yourself without being clingy or complaining.
一般情況下，她不會因你有很多事要做沒有時間陪她而抱怨。她給你支配空閒時間的自由，不纏人，不發牢騷。
8. She shares your values.
她與你有相同的價值觀。
You both “click” on how people should be treated. You have definite views on what education is and how important honesty is. Above all, you have very clear ideas on money and how it should be spent. It doesn’t matter whether you are a cheapskate or a big spender, as long as you are both in the same category!
你們都關心他人。對教育是什麼和誠實有多麼重要觀點明確。尤其是，你們對錢和如何花錢有着清晰的想法。不論你是個吝嗇鬼、還是個花錢不算計的人，只要你們認同對方就好。
9. She is open with you.
她對你開誠佈公。
You know about her childhood and the problems she had because she has talked openly about these things. You know all about her worries and her little obsessions. You know about them because she wants a friend who loves her not only for all her brilliant qualities but her defects as well.
你瞭解她的童年和她曾遇到的苦難，因爲她和你談起過這些事情。你知道她擔心什麼，也知道她的小偏好。她告訴你這些，因爲她希望他的愛人在愛她優點的同時也能接納她的缺點。
10. She is a good listener.
她善於傾聽。
She wants to know what went wrong with that project at work or why you got mad with your boss. She is not afraid to ask for details. Her questions are focused on where you are coming from. She offers advice when asked for it.
她希望瞭解你工作中遇到什麼困難，或者爲什麼你對上司心懷不滿。她不擔心你談起工作來事無鉅細。她會分析你的問題，在你需要建議時出招獻策。
11. She is such fun to be with.
和她在一起讓你身心愉快。
You laugh at the same things. You enjoy lots of things together. You appreciate each others’ silly jokes, cartoon characters, stupid songs and crazy things on Facebook.
你們因同一笑話而開懷大笑。你們可以一起開心地做很多事情。你們互相欣賞對方的拙劣笑話、卡通人物、荒唐的歌曲和臉譜網上偶爾的瘋狂。
12. She loves hanging out with your friends and family.
她喜歡與你的家人和朋友一起逛街。
You never have a problem when you want to do things with your or her group of friends. She fits in with your family so easily. There is no jealousy or undercurrents which could become toxic.
當你想和你或她的朋友一起做什麼事時，從不需要擔心她生氣。她與你的家人相處融洽。沒有嫉妒，也沒有危機潛藏的暗流。
13. She never asks for advice about clothes.
她從來不要求你幫她選衣服。
She never asks you to help her choose clothes and would never dream of asking you whether a certain color suits her. She does not need that kind of advice because she is perfectly confident and poised.
她從不要求你幫她挑選衣服，而且也不會自尋你什麼顏色適合她。她不需要這種建議，因爲她非常自信而沉着。
她知道如何給你驚喜。
She knows how to spring a surprise on you. That can be anything from a different outing, a sudden change of plans or anything else which breaks the routine. Too much routine turns into boredom.
她知道如何帶給你驚喜。它可能是一次不同往常的遠足，一個突然的計劃變更或任何其他打破常規的事情。一味的循規蹈矩會演化成無聊。
她從來不婆婆媽媽。
She is the one who can let the small things go so that you can feel perfectly at ease in her company. You are both relieved that there is no nit-picking or nagging. You have both moved on and upgraded. You are now on a journey of personal growth and mutual self improvement.
她不拘小節，所以她的陪伴不會讓你變得謹小慎微。沒有吹毛求疵，沒有嘮嘮叨叨，你們兩人都覺輕鬆。你們的關係會越來越好、越來越和諧。你們正處於個人成長和相互提升的途中。
This is a perfect description of your great girlfriend, isn’t it? Or is it all too good to be true? If it is, then you might have to rethink what you are really looking for in a great girlfriend.
這是你稱心女友的真實寫照？還是一種虛幻？如果你覺得這太不真實，那你可能需要反思一下你的擇偶標準了？
