10種方法使你的約會更成功
Are you less than successful at online dating? Chances are you’re not a fundamentally broken person, destined for a life of lonely misery. You’re probably just not very good at dating. This is good and bad news. On the one hand, it’s good to know that this is a skill you can learn. On the other hand, you also know you’ve got some work ahead of you. Let’s get right into it. 10 ways to be a better date.
你的網戀不成功？可能是你沒從根本上突破，而註定孤獨痛苦的生活。你可能只是不擅長約會。這是一個好消息也是一個壞消息。一方面，能知道這是你可以學習的技能，這非常好。另一方面，你也知道你有很多功課要做。讓我們馬上來看看。10種方法使你的約會更成功。
1) Be Interesting.
1）要風趣
If you date enough, you’ll meet all kinds of people. People who date well know how to talk to them. Learn about things that interest others, be it pop culture, history, science, travel. The things you learn will make you more interesting and fun to date. Remember, interesting people are interested. If you don’t know anything about something your date is into, have them TELL you all about it.
如果你約會了足夠多的次數，你會遇到各種各樣的人。擅長約會的人知道如何與他人交談。瞭解別人感興趣的東西，流行文化，歷史，科學，旅遊。你學習的東西會讓你更風趣，和你約會也更有趣。請記住，風趣的人讓人感興趣。如果你不知道你約會的對象對什麼感興趣，讓他們告訴你。
2) Be Thoughtful.
2）考慮周全。
If you’re on a first date, don’t assume that your date loves pit beef and whiskey. If you’re the one setting up the itinerary, think of fun things to do that almost anyone would enjoy. As you get to know your date, you can start to specialize. At first, keep things general.
如果你是第一次約會，不要自以爲你的約會對象喜歡牛肉和威士忌。如果你在一個設計行程，想想幾乎任何人都會喜歡，覺得有趣的事情。當你瞭解你的約會對象，你就可以爲她私人訂製了。首先，要周全。
3) Don’t Be Needy.
3.不要急促。
Even if you’re interested in a long term relationship, you don’t want to ooze neediness in the early stages of dating. Lots of people like casual dating. You don’t want to be giving off the “I want to grow old and die with you” vibe if the feeling is not necessarily reciprocated.
即使你想要建立一個長期的關係，也不要在約會初期就表明你的需求，許多人喜歡隨意的約會。如果不是那種需要別人投桃報李的的情形，你一定也不希望你的約會有一種“我要和你一起變老，和你同死”的氛圍。
4) Don’t Be Aloof.
4）不要冷漠。
Keeping it casual is well and good, but remaining emotionally distant is not. Even if you’re not ready to move in together, your date can tell if you’re not being emotionally accessible. If you’re not in a place to be somewhat open and honest, don’t date for awhile. Sure, there are plenty of ways to overdo this, but don’t date with a Poker Face either.
保持隨意是不錯，但感情不能疏遠。即使是你還沒有準備好搬到一起，你也可以告訴你的約會對象你思想上還沒有準備好。如果你沒有準備好公開和誠實，不要開始約會。當然，也有很多方法可以解決這個，但不要和冷漠的人約會。
5) Don’t Be a Jerk.
5）不要成爲一個混蛋。
It’s important not to assume things about people you don’t know well. Try not to drone on about political views, religious assertions, or any other deeply held belief that might not be agreeable to someone you’re getting to know. Be honest. Don’t be pushy or preachy.
不隨便猜想你不熟悉的人是很重要的。儘量不要從政治觀點，宗教斷言，或其他任何根深蒂固的信念或別的可能和你準備認識的人的觀點不一樣的方面去評判她。要誠實。不要出風頭或說教。
6) Be an Adult.
6）成熟一點。
You know what’s sexy? Not being a child in an adult’s body. Be employed. Pay your bills. Have a house that’s not replete with filth. You don’t have to have every single duck in a row, but don’t be a human wasteland either.
你知道什麼是性感？不是在成人的身體裏住着一顆孩子的心。有工作。有經濟能力。有一個不是滿屋狼籍的房子。你不必每件事都做得好，但不要是一個沒用的人
7) Be Independent.
7）獨立。
People who get instantly attached to someone they’re dating can come across as…y. It’s important to find that sweet spot between Emotionally Distant and Someone Who Gloms.
人們能立馬感知和自己約會的人的情緒，比如害怕。找到感情疏遠和心中暗戀的甜蜜點是很重要的。
8) Have a Plan.
8）有一個計劃。
It’s important to know how to handle various situations in a dating relationship. What if things go really well on a first date and you both obviously like each other a lot? What if the date is awkward and clearly going nowhere? There are gracious ways to handle every situation. By having a plan while still being able to improvise, you can make situations far less awkward, or much more exciting.
知道如何處理在戀愛關係的各種情況是非常重要的。如果第一次約會非常成功，你們很明顯很喜歡對方還怎麼辦？如果你的約會對象很尷尬，並明確無處可去該怎麼辦？有親切的方式來處理這些情況。有一個計劃即興發揮，可以讓情況遠不尷尬，或更令人興奮。
9) Ask Questions.
9）問問題。
Don’t know what to say? Get the other person talking. A great life skill to have is the ability to make other people comfortable. A comfortable person feels able to talk. If you can get someone chatting happily about things that interest them, you’re doing great, Tiger.
不知道該說些什麼？讓對方說話。讓別人感到舒適是一個很棒的生活技能。舒適的人讓人覺得談得來。如果你可以讓別人愉快地聊起他們感興趣的事物，你做的很好。
10) Be Smooth.
10）圓滑一些。
When it comes to affection and sex, know what you’re doing. Don’t get too excited. Be sensual and gentle, without coming across like you don’t have a spine. Reading the other person’s interest level and sense of pace is a skill worth having. Finding your groove in these moments can get you another date or ensure that you’ll never see this person again.
當涉及到情感與性，知道自己在做什麼。不要高興得太早。感性與溫柔一些不要像你沒有骨氣一樣。感知其他人感興趣的程度和速度是值得擁有的技能。在這些時刻你的機會可以讓你得到下一次約會或保證你將永遠不會再想看到這個人。
