初次約會千萬別問這些問題

Awkward questions you should never ask on a first date

初次約會千萬別問這些問題

What's your relationship like with your parents?

你和父母的關係如何？

Relationships experts say to stay away from overly personal questions on the first date.

戀愛專家表示，初次約會時應儘量避免過於私人的問題。

Asking people questions regarding their relationship with family and friends gets too nosy, says Rori Sassoon, a relationship expert based in New York City. "That's just so personal, number one, and it's not your business, number two," Sassoon told Business Insider.

問及對方與家人和朋友的關係實在是多管閒事，紐約市的戀情專家羅裏·薩森（Rori Sassoon）說道。“第一，這是私事，第二，這不關你的事兒，”薩森對Business Insider說道。

Why did you and your ex break up?

你爲什麼和前任分手？

Bringing up past relationships can also ruin first dates, experts say.

談及以往的戀情也會破壞初次約會，專家說道。

Some people might be curious about why their date broke up with an ex in order to spot potential red flags down the road, New York City-based love coach Susan Winter said. This question is problematic for multiple reasons, however - including the fact your date likely won't be honest with you.

有些人可能非常好奇對方與前任分手的原因，以便後期的交往過程中避開這些雷區，紐約的愛情教練蘇珊·溫特（Susan Winter）說道。但由於多種原因，這個問題可能會帶來其它問題，比如你的約會對象可能不會對你說實話。

Plus, what happened in the past isn't relevant to the date that's happening right now. While someone may have had a rocky relationship with their last partner, you could bring out a completely different side of them.

此外，過去的問題並不一定適用於現在的戀情。雖然他/她可能與前任有過一段不好的回憶，但你完全可以激發他/她身上的另一面。

"Sometimes we are different versions of ourselves with different people," Winter told Business Insider. "There are people who bring out the best in us, and there are people who bring out the worst in us."

“有時候，遇到不同的人，我們就會呈現不一樣的自己，”溫特對Business Insider說道。“有些人會激發我們最好的一面，但有些人卻會讓我們呈現最糟的一面。”

How can you work in a job like that?

你怎麼會從事那樣的工作？

Avoid judgmental comments and questions about what someone does, wears, hangs out with, etc., said Andrea Syrtash, a dating expert and co-author of "It's Okay to Sleep With Him on the First Date: And Every Rule of Dating Debunked."

不要對別人的工作、穿着和朋友評頭品足，約會專家兼《第一次約會就可以睡了他：揭祕每一條約會規則》一書的合著作者安德里亞·西爾塔什（Andrea Syrtash）表示。

"You don't want your date to feel like you're keeping score and auditioning him or her for the future," Syrtash told Business Insider.

“你應該不希望給約會對象留下面試打分的印象吧，”西爾塔什對Business Insider說道。

Do you always wear this much makeup?

你總是化濃妝嗎？

Mattenson said to avoid asking a question about someone's appearance.

邁騰森表示，千萬不要問有關外貌的問題。

In fact, don't say anything about your date's appearance unless it's a direct compliment, Miami-based matchmaker Claudia Duran told Business Insider. Even if your date looks different in real life than they do in their photos, or if you don't want to see them again, Duran said to still be kind.

事實上，除了讚美他/她的外貌外，其它話請憋在肚子裏，邁阿密媒人克勞迪婭·杜蘭（Claudia Duran）對Business Insider說道。即便約會對象本人與照片上看起來有所不同，或者你不想再約他/她出來，杜蘭表示，請保持善良。