初次約會?請別擔心這些事

1.) What your makeup and hair and outfit look like

1.) 不要擔心你的妝容、髮型和穿着

Of course, you want to look good when you go on a date. There's nothing wrong with that. Everyone wants to and your date is going to want to look good for you as well. At the same time, though, you don't need to worry about what your makeup, hair, and outfit look like on a date. Yes, pick out an outfit that makes you feel good, and yes, do your hair and wear your favorite lipstick (yup, the one that you always get tons of compliments on). But don't go overboard overthinking this.

約會時想要展現自己最美的一面，這一點無可厚非。每個人都會這麼想，你的約會對象也是如此。但是，約會時不必過度擔心自己的妝容、髮型和穿着。是的，如果一件衣服讓你自我感覺良好，那就是它了，然後稍微捯飭一番頭髮，抹上你最愛的口紅（是的，就是那支人人都誇的口紅）。但也不要捯飭過度。

If you and this guy get along and want to see each other again, that definitely means that he finds you attractive, but your looks aren't the only thing that he finds interesting about you. He'll also be attracted to who you are inside and love your personality. He won't care that you wore a black dress when you had been debating a red one for half an hour.

如果你和約會對象相處融洽，還想多約幾次會，那就說明約會對象認爲你很有吸引力，但外貌不是他看重的唯一。或許，他也被你的內在所吸引，很喜歡你的性格。即使約會前，你在黑紅兩條裙子前糾結了大半天，最後還是選擇了那條黑色的裙子，他也不會介意。

2.) How many times you check your phone

2.) 看手機的次數

Yes, it's part of conventional dating advice: don't look at your phone. Don't text your best friend or look at social media or Google something. Don't check your work or personal email and, by the way, don't even have your phone on the table. Leave it in your purse where it belongs and focus on your date.

是的，以前我們會給出這樣的約會建議：不要看手機。不要給閨蜜發短信、不要刷社交媒體，也不要谷歌搜索。不要查看工作或個人郵件，此外，不要把手機放在餐桌上。我們會建議你把手機放在錢包裏，專心約會。

Yeah, that's good advice… but at the same time, we're all human, right? If you go on a date and happen to check your phone because someone texted you and you accidentally looked to see who it was, that's okay. It really is. These things happen and you can shrug it off with a laugh and say something like, "Yup, I'm addicted to this phone…" You might also be checking your phone when your date goes to the bathroom. That's totally fine, too.

是的，這是個好主意，但與此同時，我們都是人，對吧？如果你去約會了，正好有個人給你發了短信，所以你看了眼手機，看看發短信的人是誰，這並無大礙。這種事情時有發生，你只要笑着聳聳肩說上一句，"是的，我對手機上癮了……"約會對象去衛生間的時候，你也會看手機，這根本就不是什麼大事。

Chances are, if your date is a good person who you can see yourself with long-term, he'll laugh along with you and say that he's just as attached to his phone. Plus, it takes the pressure off if his mom emails him and he has to answer super quickly.

如果你覺得和約會對象有戲，那麼當你說出那句話的時候，他也會大笑着說他也對手機上癮。而且，如果他的媽媽給他發郵件而他必須快速回復的話，你玩手機的做法也會減輕他的壓力。