被出軌後,我爲何覺得自己很幸運?
I've had three serious relationships in my life, and have been thrice over - that I know of - cheated on. I found that going through the process of healing and coming out wiser better equipped me for future relationships.
我認真談過三段戀愛，據我所知，三次都被出軌。我發現，慢慢癒合、從這些感情中走出來讓我爲未來的戀情做好了準備，我也變得更聰慧、更美好。No one Hopes that they'll get cheated. If you go through life only feeling love without the pain, I salute you. But despite what you may initially think, if you have been cheated on, you are absolutely no worse off.
沒有人希望自己被出軌。如果你的一生都在愛中度過，沒有經歷過痛苦，那麼我向你致敬！但不管得知自己被出軌的那一刻你在想什麼，都沒有比這更糟糕的事情。I've had three serious relationships in my life, and have been thrice over - that I know of - cheated on. What's worse, each one cheated with a different one of my closest friends. Now you're probably feeling even worse for me. But you've got it all wrong. I actually feel lucky that this happened.
我認真談過三段戀愛，據我所知，三次都被出軌。更糟糕的是，每一任前男友的出軌對象都是我的閨蜜。現在，你肯定爲我感到難過吧。但你錯了。發生這種事情，我感到很幸運。
None of these cheaters and cheatees ended up together, it was never emotional cheating, but was always physical. Which trust me, didn't make it any easier at the time.
那些出軌者和小三最終都沒有走到一起。他們不是精神出軌，而是肉體出軌。相信我，肉體出軌並不會讓事情變得簡單。What doesn't kill you, makes you smarter.
那些打不倒你的只會讓你更智慧。Do you remember how scared you were of a bee sting before you ever got stung? Every time after, even though it still hurts, it gets a little less scary. You know you will get over the pain, and you have the emotional tools to better prepare yourself. Knowing to immediately ice your bee sting can be equated to knowing you should keep busy after your breakup.
被蜜蜂蜇之前，你是不是特別害怕被蜇？但每次被蜇完之後，即使還是很疼，但卻沒那麼可怕了。你知道你終會忘記這種疼痛，你也會在情感上讓自己做好準備。你知道，被蜜蜂蜇完之後要立馬冰敷，就像你知道分手之後，要讓自己忙起來一樣。Familiarizing yourself with pain might also help you be more empathetic and mindful. Emotional intelligence can be an extremely valuable asset. By definition, it is said to give you a set of the following lifelong skills: "the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and the emotions of others," according to Psychology Today.
熟知疼痛感或幫助你更有同情心、更走心。情商是極具價值的資產。其定義表示，它能爲您提供以下一系列終身技能："利用情感並將其用於思考和解決問題等任務的能力；管理情緒的能力，包括調節自己和他人的情緒，"《今日心理學》表示。Hopefully, you'll never get cheated on again, but you never know what the life may hold. What you do now know is that no matter what the challenges in your new relationships may be, going through this and coming out all the wiser can only better equip you in the future.
但願不要再一次被出軌了，但你永遠不知道,在生活中,你會遇到什麼。你只知道：不管新的戀情會出現何種挑戰，你只要一一應對，並從中汲取智慧就行了，你會爲未來做好準備！
