時尚雙語:128個問題打造知心戀人

100 Questions To Know Your Partner Take off the mask, and be the real you!

Ever noticed that when you first meet someone, you always put your best foot forward? There's certainly nothing wrong with that, as long as it's the real you!

Nobody wants to later feel like "I can't believe that they feel that way" So while you're in the "getting to know you" phase, here's some great and intimate questions to spur conversation and honesty.

100 QUESTIONS FOR COUPLES

was the first thing that attracted you about me?

you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that friendship maintains a relationship?

you look at a woman, what is the first thing you notice?

you think it's ok to keep noticing another woman after you are in a committed relationship? Does this change when you are married?

is the first thing that you notice when you look at a man?

I don't say so, how do you know that I want to make love?

ribe the way I smell.

me how you describe me to other people?

often do you believe it is normal to want sex?

you masturbate?

do you feel if I come into the bathroom when you are using the facilities?

was the last time you took a shower together?

your friend was cheating on their spouse, do you think you should tell their partner?

your friend was cheating on their spouse, would you tell your spouse about it?

were you thinking about right before you kissed me for the first time?

r I had asked you out for the first time, did you consider saying no?

there anything that you were worried about the first time we were about to become naked?

old were you when you had your first kiss?

old were you the first time you had sex?

old were you the first time you thought you were in love?

helped you figure out how to ask someone out on your first date?

you parents tell you about sex, or did you already know?

ribe your parents marriage. What was the best part and the worst part in your opinion?

was the first person who died in your life and how did you feel?

animals do you like and not like?

ribe your perfect dream date.

ribe your perfect wedding.

you have sexual dreams? Tell me about some of them.

is the most important thing that money can do for you?

had control of the money when you were growing up?

did you learn what it meant to be a man/woman?

you believe in God?

money were no object, what is the one thing that would be most important to you to do?

you had one day to live, what would you do?

you won the lottery, what would you like to accomplish?

you gave money to charity, which ones would you choose and why?

you ever been cruel to an animal?

you were a child, did you ever experiment sexually with another child?

you ever sexually, emotionally, or verbally abused?

you tell me what makes up your belief systems?

is the person you admire most and why?

is the one thing that would be a relationship breaker for you?

important do you think monogamy is to a relationship?

do you believe is the dominant one in a relationship and why?

do you feel about having children?

ribe your philosophy on personal debt.

is the one thing that I do that makes you crazy?

you were really in trouble, who would you go to for advice?

do you feel responsible for in your life?

are you beliefs about abortion?

important do you believe organized religion is in a couples relationship?

me when you first knew you loved me?

do you handle anger? Has it ever caused a problem in your life?

do you think divorce affects the couple involved?

do you think should determine when a couple has a child?

do you plan to handle the aging of your parents?

you died today, how would you like your final arrangements handled?

do you think happens to you when you die?

you were going to write a book, what would it be about?

e is the one place that you want to go and why?

you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?

you won the lottery, would you continue working?

you feel that you have ever shown prejudice to another person?

is your very best friend and why?

did you choose the career you are in?

is one thing that could happen that would make your day?

things that constitute self care.

is the most unselfish thing that you think you have ever done?

you believe in ghosts?

would you want people to say about you after you had passed away?

is your goal for the next 12 months? How do you plan to reach it?

you feel that you have enough education?

was the biggest mistake you think you ever made and how did it change your life?

you found someone's wallet, what would you do with it?

you feel that one partner in a couple should be able to vacation alone?

is important in a marriage to you?

led up to your decision to get married? Why did you decide the time and person were right?

is the last book you read? What was the most important reason for reading that book?

you think that taking a pen or scratch pad home from work is stealing?

you have a sexual fantasy that you haven't acted out?

you ever experimented with someone of the same sex? What is your opinion of homosexuality?

you vote for the same party every election? Why?

you are depressed, what do you do or how do you act? What do you do to overcome the depression?

you ever achieved a New Year's resolution?

has the primary responsibility in marriage for raising the children?

is the one thing that you'd like to change about yourself?

I ever embarrassed you?

you could change one thing about me, what would it be?

is the biggest regret in your life?

is the biggest "known" secret in your family that nobody talks about?

was your favorite age to be and why?

you believe that couples should keep separate bank accounts ? Who controls the money?

do you do to make your partner happy that you don't particularly like to do?

is something that I do sexually that you like and don't think that I do often enough?

age do you think people are old and how do you think that changes their lives?

you think it is sometimes necessary to put aging parents in nursing homes?

you think that animals have souls?

you could ask me one question, what would that be?

do you know when I'm mad?

is the one thing that you think that I could do that would hurt you the worst?

do I cook that you are tired of?

I were to cook something to surprise you, what would you like it to be?

did you think the first time you met my mother and father?

r divorce, what do you think that parents could do to make the transition easier on the children?

you think that children of divorce are more likely to later be the victim of divorce?

long do you think a person should spend alone between relationship?

you think men love differently than women?

you are a man, what is the one thing that you think it would be important for a woman to know about men or vice versa!

you think marriage counseling works and why or why not?

ne love?

ribe yourself if you can't use profession/marital status?

is the most important thing in your life?

are you most ashamed of and why?

you believe that an internet affair is actually an affair?

you ever dated a married man/woman?

would you describe your moral values?

do you think you teach children moral values?

should talk to the children about sex and when?

part do you think that you play in a child's education?

is your opinion of paying child support and/or alimony?

do you think makes successful people successful?

is the first memory you have?

you have a pet growing up and which was your favorite?

is the thing that you fear most?

would change in your life if you had total responsibility for your life and could never blame anyone else for anything?

is the one thing that you wish that I would tell you?

do you think that it is OK to keep a secret and why?

you believe that there are degrees of a lie?

129. How do you feel about romantic destinations as a part of your lifestyle?

聊着聊着就找不着話題了？經常抱怨對方不懂自己的感受？……沒關係。我們爲您羅列了128個絕佳的問題，每個都是一個好話題，亦是一次重新認識對方的機會。

一、懂你懂我

1.我哪一點最吸引你？

7.描述一下我的味道。

8.私下你是如何向別人描述我的？

15.你第一次吻我之前在想些什麼？

16.我第一次把你約出來的時候你考慮過拒絕我嗎？

17.我們第一次面對對方裸體的時候，你有擔心過什麼嗎？

18.初吻時是幾歲？

19.初夜是何時？

20.初戀時你多大？

47.我做過的哪件事很讓你生氣？

52.告訴我，你是何時發覺愛上我的？

87.我使你難堪過嗎？

88.如果你能夠改變我的一個方面，那會是什麼呢？

98.如果你打算問我一個問題，你會問什麼？

99.你是如何察覺我在生氣的？

100.你覺得我能夠傷害你最深的一件事會是什麼？

101.我做的哪道菜你已經吃厭了？

102.如果我想在餐桌上給你一個驚喜，你希望是哪道菜呢？

二、耳鬢廝磨

2.你認爲是性還是感情維持着一段完美的戀情？

13.如果你的朋友偷腥，你覺得你應該告訴他的伴侶嗎？

14.如果你的朋友偷腥，你會讓他的伴侶知道嗎？

21.你的第一次約會是在哪位“老師”的指導下完成的？

26.描述一下你心中完美的約會。

42.什麼會讓你慧劍斬情絲？

44.你認爲在戀愛中誰會佔主導地位，爲什麼？

75.一個人去度假，另一個人獨自在家，你會怎麼想？

107.你認爲男人的愛與女人的愛是不同的嗎？

108.作爲男性（女性），你認爲女性（男性）最有必要知道的是什麼？

110.給愛情下個定義。

114.網戀算是真正的戀愛嗎？

115.你約過有夫之婦（有婦之夫）嗎？

129.浪漫的度假作爲你生活方式的一部分，你有何感受？

三、兩性話題

3.當你看到一個女性，你最先注意的是她的哪一部位？

4.你覺得熱戀中還繼續關注其他女人是否不妥？婚後會有所改變嗎？

5.當你看到一個男性，你最先注意的是他的哪一部位？

6.我不說，你又是如何知道我想親熱呢？

9.你認爲多長時間親熱一回算是不頻繁啊？

10.你自慰嗎？

11.你用洗手間的時候我的進入會讓你作何感想？

12.我們最近洗一次鴛鴦浴是什麼時候？

28.做過春夢吧？說說看。

38.當你還小屁孩的時候，與異性小朋友有過重口味接觸嗎？

80.你還有什麼尚未實現的性幻想嗎？

81.嘗試過與同性親熱嗎？談談你對同性戀的看法。

94.做愛時你最想要我的哪一招？

四、談婚論嫁

27.你心中完美的婚禮是什麼樣子的？

43.你認爲一夫一妻制很重要嗎？

45.婚後會要孩子嗎？

50.你對墮胎的看法是？

51.宗教信仰對婚姻影響很大嗎？

54.離婚對於夫婦雙方有何影響？

55.什麼因素會讓你決定要一個孩子？

76.婚姻對你來說最重要的是什麼？

77.什麼因素會讓你決定結婚？你又是如何確定人選和時機的？

85.婚後誰來管孩子？

92.你認爲夫妻雙方應該財政獨立嗎？或者誰來掌握經濟大權？

104.離婚後，你認爲父母該做些什麼去讓孩子適應？

105.你認爲孩子是離婚的受害者嗎？

106.婚姻中個人該有多少獨處的時間？

109.你認爲婚姻諮詢服務有效嗎？爲什麼？

117.你會如何培養孩子的道德價值觀？

118.誰該對孩子進行性啓蒙？當孩子多大時呢？

119.你認爲自身該在孩子的教育中扮演怎樣的角色？

120.你對用在孩子身上的開銷有何看法？

五、贍養父母

22.你父母對你做過性啓蒙嗎？或者你自學的？

23.說說你父母的婚姻。你感覺最美好和最糟糕的分別是哪一部分？

30.你父母撫養你的時候，你家誰管錢？

56.你打算如何贍養年老的父母？

93.你不經意做的哪件事最讓父母開心？

96.你覺得有必要間或把父母送進養老院嗎？

103.你第一次見我父母時有什麼感想？

六、生老病死

24.你親友中誰最先過世？說說你那時的感受。

34.如果你的生命只剩下一天，你會如何度過？

57.如果你今天就會死去，你打算如何安排自己的葬禮？

58.你覺得死亡時會發生什麼？

67.列舉一下有關自我保健的事物。

70.你希望死後人們對你的評價是什麼？

91.最想活在哪一歲？爲什麼？

95.你認爲人在哪一歲開始衰老？它又是如何改變人們生活的？

七、雜七雜八

25.你喜歡什麼動物，不喜歡什麼？

29.你認爲錢最重要的功能是？

31.你是如何學到作爲男性（女性）所應具備的品質的？

32.你相信神嗎？

33.如果金錢不再是目標，你最大的追求會是什麼？

35.如果你中了彩票，會去做什麼呢？

36.如果你打算爲慈善事業捐款，你會捐給哪一協會（工程）？

37.是否虐待過動物？

39.你曾被性虐待（心理虐待、辱罵）過嗎？

40.可以告訴我支持你的信念的是什麼嗎？

41.你最欣賞誰？爲什麼？

46.談談你在個人債務方面的行爲準則。

48.當你陷入困境時會向誰請教？

49.你認爲誰在爲你生活負責？

53.你是如何壓住怒火的？它造成過麻煩嗎？

59.如果你打算寫本書，你會寫些什麼呢？

60.你現在最想去哪兒？爲什麼？

61.如果可能，你最想住在哪兒？爲什麼？

62.如果你中了彩票，還會繼續上班嗎？

63.當你對某人有偏見時，你是怎麼想的？

64.你最好的朋友是誰？爲什麼？

65.你是如何選擇現在這項事業的？

66.現實一點的說，什麼事情會讓你快樂一整天？

68.你做過的最無私的是哪件事？

69.你相信世上有鬼嗎？

71.你今後12個月中的目標是什麼？打算如何實現？

72.你對自己的受教育程度滿意嗎？

73.你曾犯下的最大的錯誤是什麼？它是如何改變你人生的？

74.如果你撿到一個錢包，你會怎麼做？

78.最近讀了哪本書？閱讀它主要的原因是什麼？

79.你認爲把辦公室的筆或便箋本帶回家算偷竊嗎？

83.當你感到沮喪時，你會做些什麼，行爲會因此有何不同？你又是如何克服沮喪的呢？

84.是否實現過年初制定的目標？

86.希望改變自己的什麼？

89.你人生中最後悔的事是？

90.你家最大的“公開的祕密”是？

97.你認爲動物有靈魂嗎？

111.不涉及職業和婚姻的狀況，描述一下你自己。

112.你人生中最重要的事是？

113.最讓你感到羞恥的事是什麼？爲什麼？

116.簡述一下你自己的道德價值觀。

121.促使成功人士成功的因素有哪些？談談自己的見解。

122.你生命中最早的記憶是什麼？

123.你養大過寵物嗎？最愛哪一隻？

124.你最害怕什麼？

125.如果你得獨自爲自己的生活負責，不能指望任何人，你的生活會發生哪些變化？

126.你最希望我向你坦白什麼？

127.你認爲何時該保守祕密？爲什麼？

128.你認爲謊言有度嗎？