在生活中默默表達你的愛意

Leave Notes (in Unusual Places)
Perhaps life has become so busy that you feel like your schedule rarely coincides with that of your partner or kids. How about leaving them a note somewhere unexpected? You’ve probably all heard of kids having little notes from their mom’s in their lunch bags – that’s one place to start, but how about a note by the kettle, in the fridge, on the pillow, on the computer screen...? This can become a bit of a game as you compete to leave a note in the most unusual places!
留便條（在特別的地方）
也許生活總是很忙碌，你很難和你的愛人、孩子有共處的時光，在一些特別的地方留些字條怎麼樣？你也許聽說過有的母親會在孩子的便當包裏放些小紙條，這是個不錯的開始。你還可以把紙條貼在茶壺上、冰箱上、枕頭上、電腦屏幕上……在特別的地方留下字條，會成爲你和家人們的一個互動的小遊戲。

Hug Someone
Physical gestures mean a huge amount, and a hug can be just what a loved one needs to put a big smile on their face. Whether it’s snuggling up on the sofa with your partner or giving your kids a goodnight hug, being held and warmed by another person is a perfect way to feel loved.
來個擁抱
肢體語言很重要，擁抱會使被愛的人感到愉快。無論是在沙發上和愛人緊緊相擁，還是在孩子睡前給他們一個擁抱，他們都能夠完美地感受到你愛的暖意。

Write A Poem
A time-honored way to say “I love you” is to write a poem. You don’t have to be Shakespeare – look for sincere, original ways to tell someone that you love them. Try not to fall back on hackneyed phrases about their beautiful blue eyes or their rosy red lips; write about something that’s meaningful to you, perhaps that dimple on their chin, or the way they laugh at your jokes.
寫一首小詩
以詩示愛自古就有。你不必非要有莎翁的文采，只需充滿誠意地自創一首去表達愛意。儘量摒棄那些讚美碧眼朱脣的陳詞濫調，寫些對你而言有意義的東西，也許是他們臉頰的一對酒窩，也許是他們爲你開懷大笑的樣子。

Give An Unexpected Gift
I’m sure you give your loved ones gifts on their birthday, at Christmas, and on special occasions like Valentine’s day. But how about bringing a gift completely at random? An unexpected present is a moment of pure joy for the recipient and the giver, and it needn’t be anything expensive. A few of their favorite chocolates, a small bunch of flowers, a book which you know they’ll enjoy ... for a few dollars, you have the perfect way to say “I love you”.
送份出乎意料的禮物
我相信在愛的人生日以及聖誕、情人節等等特別的日子你會送禮物給他們，但是有沒有嘗試過在尋常的日子送一份禮物給他們呢？一份不期而至的禮物會讓送禮物和收禮物的人都感到快樂。這份禮物不需要多貴，一盒他們喜歡的巧克力，一小束花，一本你知道他們會喜歡的書，只需要花上幾美元，你就能完美表達你的愛意。

Do The Chores (Without Being Asked)
For many people, another extremely welcomed gift is someone else doing the chores! If it’s your partner who usually cleans the kitchen, why not do it and surprise him/her? If you normally have to be nagged to vacuum, get it done without being asked. Finding little ways to make someone else’s day smoother lets them know how much they mean to you.
主動幫忙做家務
對很多人來說，他人主動幫忙做家務就算得上一份禮物。如果一般是你的愛人打掃廚房，你可以幫他/她做好，給他/她一個驚喜。如果你老是要被別人催着去吸塵，這回主動去做。做些小事讓他人的生活更順心，他們就能感覺到自己對你來說有多重要。

Hold Hands
Like hugging, holding hands is something that we often neglect to do when a relationship becomes cozy and familiar. Try taking your partner’s hand when walking down the street, or hold their hands across a table in a restaurant. Being in contact physically helps you feel closer emotionally. This is especially important if you need to talk through a difficult issue or problem. Holding hands can also be a visible demonstration of support if your partner is upset or feeling down.
握住雙手
和擁抱一樣，握手是當我們和他人之間的關係變得舒適熟悉之後常常忽略的動作。走在大街上，或者隔着餐桌，拉起愛人的手，生理上的聯繫會讓你心理上感到更加親近。在你需要告訴他們一些重要的事情或問題的時候，這一舉動尤爲重要。當你的愛人情緒低落的時候，握住他/她的手，是一種對他/她看得見的支持。

Make A Special Meal
If Friday nights usually mean ordering takeout, why not offer to cook for a change? Make a special meal for your partner (you don’t need an excuse for this – it doesn’t have to be Valentine’s day or an anniversary!) Include their favorite foods, take a few minutes to set the table, to light candles and put music on, and your usual forgettable evening slumped on the sofa can become a night to remember...
做特別的一餐
如果週五的晚上你們通常叫外賣，試試這回自己下廚。不需要非得等到情人節或者紀念日，你隨時都可以爲你的愛人做一桌他們愛吃的東西。花幾分鐘鋪好桌子，點上幾根蠟燭，放點音樂，通常窩在沙發裏度過的無聊時光就會成爲你們難忘的一夜……

Dress Up
In the early stages of a relationship, you probably made the effort to look your best. Of course it’s nice to get to the point where you can lounge around in your jammies or your over sized, hole-ridden t-shirt... but occasionally getting dressed up can rekindle that early excitement in the relationship. Why not go out to a “swankier” restaurant than usual (it doesn’t have to be much more expensive), or just get dressed up in your party clothes for a special meal for two at home?
打扮自己
戀情剛剛開始的時候，你可能還很在乎你的裝扮。穿着睡衣、寬鬆的T恤到處跑當然很舒適，不過偶爾你也可以嘗試打扮下自己，重燃初戀時的激情。去家平常高檔一點的餐廳（也不需要貴很多），或者在家吃飯的時候，偶爾穿上你去派對時候的禮服。

Give a Foot/Shoulder Rub
Modern life is stressful and many of us have aches and pains caused by tense muscles. A shoulder rub, back rub or foot rub is a wonderful way to tell your partner “I love you”. It demonstrates that their physical well being and comfort is important to you, and it’s also a great way to reinforce physical and emotional closeness.
給他們擦肩、擦腳
現代生活紛繁忙碌，很多人都因爲肌肉緊張有這樣那樣的疼痛。給愛人擦擦身體是向他們表達心意的絕佳方式。他們能夠感受到他們的健康對你來說有多重要，而且使你們的身心更爲親密。

Listen to Them
It’s easy to talk over people or to tune out most of what they’re saying whilst reading the newspaper or chatting online with friends. Listen actively to your partner – when they want to talk, put down what you’re doing, and focus all your attention on them. Listen for what they don’t say; unvoiced concerns or worries, or hints at what they’d really like. Nod and make eye-contact to show that you’re paying attention.
傾聽他們說話
讀報紙、上網聊天的時候很容易和家人搭訕，試着在他們說話的時候放下手中的事情，全神貫注去聽他們講話。試着領會他們沒說出口的的心事，瞭解他們喜歡什麼。點頭、眼神交流都表示你聽得很專心。