英語美文欣賞：你就是這麼毀了你的人生

摘要：你應該明白，生活不是一條直線，也不是一個由重大事件標記好了的時間軸。你可以選擇倒帶。你可以停下來想想是什麼東西啓發着你。你還有很多時間，我想常常我們忘記了這一點。

Understand that life is not a straight line. Life is not a set timeline of milestones. You are allowed to backtrack. You are allowed to figure out what inspires you. You are allowed time, and I think we often forget that.

你應該明白，生活不是一條直線，也不是一個由重大事件標記好了的時間軸。你可以選擇倒帶。你可以停下來想想是什麼東西啓發着你。你還有很多時間，我想常常我們忘記了這一點。

You ruin your life by choosing the wrong person.

　　自毀人生之一：選錯了終身伴侶

What is it with our need to fast-track relationships? Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself.

爲什麼我們覺得自己需要狂飆突進似的戀愛關係?學着獨處。獨自進餐，和自己約會，獨自入眠。在這個過程中，你會明白自己是什麼樣的人。你會有所成長，瞭解到在人生道路上啓發着你的究竟是什麼。你將掌控自己的夢想，堅定自己的信仰，理清自己的思路。如此一來，當你遇到那個讓你墜入愛河的人的時候，你能夠確信他就是那個人，因爲你確知你是什麼人。

You ruin your life by letting your past govern it.

　　自毀人生之二：縱容你的過去操控自己

It is common for certain things in life to happen to you. There will be heartbreak, confusion, days where you feel like you aren’t special or purposeful. You cannot let these define you. If you don’t allow yourself to move past what happened, what was felt, you will look at your future with that lens, and nothing will be able to breach that judgment.

人生不如意十九，這是很自然的事情。你可能會心碎，會迷茫，會覺得自己毫無過人之處，覺得自己活得毫無目的。別讓這些不如意的過往限定自己。如果你不能從過去裏走出來，從過去的感受裏超脫，你就會帶着過去的眼光看待自己的未來，那麼所有事情無一例外都會受這種偏見的影響。

You ruin your life when you compare yourself to others.

　　自毀人生之三：比附他人

We get caught up in what our friends are liking, who our significant others are following, and at the end of the day this not only ruins our lives, but it also ruins us.

我們常常爲了他人的偏好桎梏自己：我們的朋友們喜歡什麼，我們的戀人在追求什麼，如此一來，不僅會把我們的生活弄得一團糟，也把我們的關係弄得一團糟。

　　You ruin your life by tolerating it.

　　自毀人生之四：一味忍耐

At the end of the day you should be excited to be alive. When you settle for anything less than what you innately desire, you destroy the possibility that lives inside of you. Life and work, and life and love, are not irrespective of each other. They are intrinsically linked. We have to strive to do extraordinary work, we have to strive to find extraordinary love. Only then will we tap into an extraordinarily blissful life.

當一天將盡的時候，你應該爲活着而感到歡欣。如果你不去追求內心渴望的東西，而是得過且過，退而求其次，你就喪失了讓自己內心的想法實現的機會。生活與工作，生活與愛情，他們並不是兩兩不相干的。他們之間都有着內在的聯繫。我們必須努力把工作幹得棒棒的，努力把情感經營的棒棒的。只有這樣，我們才能獲得美好的，幸福的生活。