15條忠告讓你的網戀更給力

1) Use common sense and pay attention to your gut reaction. This is often the Holy Spirit in you, warning you that things may not be right。

1)運用常識，相信直覺。這是你內心的真正感受，會提醒你事情是不是有點不對勁了。

2) If he or she sounds too good to be true, he or she probably is to good to be true and isn’t being truthful on his or her profile。

2)如果對方好得有點不真實了，那麼就應該質疑一下他/她的身份的真實性了。

3) Listen and watch (by video) for signs of a temper, control, etc. and run for the hills if you sense this person needs therapy first. You aren’t going to change him or her. Let the person get help。

3)聽一聽，看一看(通過視頻)對方的性格脾氣。如果你覺得這個人有點不太正常，那就趕緊撤吧。你可沒必要去改變他/她，讓他/她自己想辦法吧。

4) Use a free email account with family name and something else. This way a person cannot search all your personal details。

4)用你的姓氏開通一個免費的電子郵箱，防止別人來搜索你的個人信息。

5) Ask for a RECENT picture and encourage the person to send candid shots for more realism. You don’t want major surprises when you meet. Awkward!

5)問對方要一張他/她的近照，最好是生活照，這樣更真實。你也不想在見面的時候，對方是恐龍或青蛙吧，見光死啊！

6) If any one asks for money, do not give it. Most likely you are being scammed。

6)如果對方問你要錢，千萬別給！十有八九是來騙錢的。

7) Don’t reveal details of your personal life too soon and be careful what you reveal。

7)別太快把自己的生活細節泄露給對方，多留意自己都說了些什麼。8) Paid services usually have more safety and screening procedures than free。

8)付費的婚戀網站往往比免費的更安全，審覈程序也更嚴格。

9) If you do have a home phone, don’t give out the number. Use your cell phone。

9)不要給對方家庭電話，給他/她手機號碼就行。

10) Some people have a great deal of social awkwardness at meeting others. If you meet and it feels awkward, you may want to give it another chance to see if the person settles down and is interesting。

10)有些人在面對陌生人時會很緊張，表現糟糕。如果對方在見面時是這樣的，再給他/她一次機會，看看對方的人品怎樣，是不是風趣幽默。

11) Meet in a public space the first time。

11)第一次見面安排在公共場所。

12) Don’t use a provocative handle to get interest. The interest you get is not the kind of interest you want。

12)不要用輕佻的言行引起對方的興趣，這樣激起的興趣不是你想要的那種。

13) Don’t go into questionable chat rooms。

13)不要進那些有問題的聊天室。

14) Use Skype (and other visual media) to actually see each other if the relationship progresses. You get more information when you can observe nonverbal behavior。

14)如果你們的關係有所進展的話，用Skype等視頻聊天工具面對面地交流，你可以從非語言的行爲中獲得更多的信息。

15) Think about how your photos may be used. Once you send them to the cyberspace, people can use them however they want. And get permission from any person who might be in a photo with you. Better yet, crop that person out of the photo. It violates his or her privacy。

15)慎用照片。一旦你把照片上傳到網絡，人們就可以任意使用它了。如果是與別人一起的合照，要事先徵求對方意見，要不然就直接把別人從照片上裁掉，不要泄露別人的隱私。