給年輕的自己的忠告:你不可能讓所有人都高興

Remember your 16-year-old self, the one who thought finding the right prom date and getting an A in geometry were crucial to existence itself? Or what about your early 20s self, who, holed up in a tiny apartment and slaving away at an entry level job, suspected that it would be that way forever? Ever wish you could go back and comfort her? Give her some perspective, help her avoid the mistakes you now regret, somehow assure her that she would be okay?

還記得16歲的自己嗎：那個把找合適的舞伴和在幾何學考試中得A當成是天大的事的自己？或者你還記得20歲出頭的自己嗎：那個蝸居在小公寓裏，累死累活地做着基礎工作，懷疑人生的自己？你有沒有想過回到過去，去安撫一下那時的自己？給那時的自己一點洞見，幫助她少走彎路，告訴她一切都會好起來的。

We recently asked our community the question, "If you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would that be?" We got over a hundred responses, ranging from relationships and careers to body image and confidence. Below are our favorite 15 responses.

最近我們在社區裏做了一個活動“如果你可以給年輕的自己一個建議的話，你會說些什麼呢？”我們收到了上百條回覆，回覆內容從處理人際關係、職業指導到外在形象、自信自尊等都有。以下就是精選的15條最棒的建議。

people tell you that you are amazing, strong, resilient, smart, and capable - BELIEVE them.

1.當別人告訴你“你很棒、很堅強、有韌勁、聰明、有能力”的時候。相信他們的讚美。

2. High school does not determine who you are for the rest of your life. You may fall in love with your high school sweetheart but that love feels nothing like the love you will feel with your spouse. People may make fun of you but continue to stay true to who you are. Real friends will be there for the long haul. Don't sweat the small stuff! Life as an adult is much more difficult. Have fun!

2.高中生活並不能決定你未來的生活。也許你會在高中裏談戀愛，但是當時對小男友的感情和你今後對愛人的感情是完全不同的。別人也許會取笑你，但你還是要保持自我，真正的朋友是會一直在你身邊的。別爲小事抓狂！成年人的生活遠比現在要困難得多。好好享受！

3. Don’t follow the crowd. You were born to lead!

3.別隨大流。你生來就是當領導的料！

4. Realize that you are a treasure, and deserve to be treated as such. Never settle for anything less.

4.要知道你就是一件珍寶，你值得別人對你好。別把自己想得太差了。

5. You're the only one who can fix your problems.

5.只有你自己才能解決問題。

6. Don't marry just because it seems everyone else is and you don't know you can be happy alone. Multiple times.

6.不要因爲別人都結婚了就草草嫁人。一個人也可以活得很快樂，而且要快樂得多。

7. Don't let others dampen your passion! Passion is what will drive you to live your life to the fullest and enjoy what you do.

7.別讓他人熄滅你的激情！激情可以引導你的生活變得圓滿充實。享受你做的事吧。

8. What sets you apart isn't a burden, it makes you, you.

8.你和別人不同，這不應該成爲你的負擔，而是成就你的基石。

9. Think about future; worklife needs when planning your career.

9.未雨綢繆，你的工作生活需要事先做好職業規劃。

10. Ignore your parent's advice when it comes to your career. They come from a different generation.

10.當你選擇職業的時候，別去聽父母的建議，因爲你們生活的時代不一樣了。

10% of each paycheck, and all of any bonus into savings. Use it to help with "early" retirement.

11.把每個月收入的10%存起來，把所有的額外收入也都存起來。利用這些錢去應對“早退”的問題。

can't please everyone, so stop trying!

12.你不可能讓所有人都高興，停止這種做法！

more risks, or else you may have regrets.

13.更多地去冒險，不然你會後悔的。

't put so much energy into worrying about the size of your ass, worry about something you can actually affect.

14.不要總是去擔心自己的大屁股，擔心那些你可以掌控的事情。

your education very seriously; your future depends on it.

15.認真對待你的學習，你的未來就指望着它。