雙語閱讀：情侶間爲什麼喜歡說謊話

以下是小編整理的英語文章：情侶間爲什麼喜歡說謊話， 希望能對大家的英語學習有幫助。

　　Would I lie to you?

　　我會對你撒謊嗎?

It depends. Are we married?

這要看情況了。我們結婚了嗎?

Because then I might. And you might lie to me, too.

因爲，如果是這樣，那麼我可能會對你撒謊。而你也可能會對我撒謊。

Let's be clear: I'm not talking about the big, ugly, deal-breaking deceptions -- lies that, if exposed,could destroy a relationship.

我不妨說得明白些：我說的可不是那些天大的、醜陋的、毀滅性的欺騙──那些一旦被發現，就會讓我們的關係毀於一旦的謊言。

I'm talking about the fibs and feints and little white lies that serve as a social salve and help arelationship run smoothly. You know what I mean.

我說的是那些虛幌一槍，無關痛癢的善意謊言，它們能時不時地充當社交藥膏，使我們的關係更加順暢。你肯定知道我是什麼意思。

And you know that even in the best marriages and romantic relationships, we sometimes fail to tellthe truth. After all, we have plenty of reasons not to.

而你也清楚，即便是最美好的婚姻，最浪漫的兩性關係，我們有時候也無法說實話。畢竟，我們總有很多理由不說實話。

We fib to avoid conflict. To gain approval. To save face. Or just to be kind. (Show me a man whotells his wife she looks fat, and I'll show you a man headed for a night on the couch.)

我們扯謊是爲了避免衝突。爲了得到同意。爲了面子。或者就是因爲心軟。(如果你能說出一個對老婆說她看上去很胖的男人，那麼我就能給你找到一個被下放到沙發上過夜的男人。)

Speaking of men, they didn't exactly line up to be interviewed for this column. I asked hundreds ofthem about the little fibs they tell their wives or significant others. And here's what I got: radiosilence.

說到男人，他們可沒有排隊等着接受我爲這個專欄所做的採訪。我問過幾百個男人：他們是否向老婆或者熱戀中的另一半扯過謊。這是我得到的答案：沉默。

The women I queried yammered on and on. They giggled as they told of lying to -- or withholdingthe truth from -- their partners about their dress sizes, the cost of their hair highlights, whetherthey got Botox injections or how much reality TV they watch.

我所採訪的女性則是滔滔不絕。當說起向另一半就衣服尺寸有多大、挑染頭髮花了多少錢、是否注射了肉毒桿菌素(Botox)或者她們其實看了多少真人秀等說謊或者不說實話的時候，她們都咯咯直笑。

'You mean the old 'new clothes out of the Nordstrom shopping bag into the cleaner's plasticgarment wrap before you come into the house' trick?' asked a human-resources executive in SanFrancisco, who has been married for 37 years. 'Well, obviously I plead guilty.'

“你是說這類居家把戲嗎──進家門前把從高檔百貨公司Nordstrom新買的衣服裝進洗衣店塑料袋子裏?”舊金山一位已婚37年的人力資源主管問道。“嗯，我當然撒過這樣的謊。”

One woman told of ordering take-out food as a newlywed, then dumping it all in pots on the stovebefore her husband came home from work. Another said she waited three years before telling herhusband she had dropped one of the diamond earrings he'd given her down the sink. (Each timehe asked why she wasn't wearing them, she claimed they hurt her to wear.) Yet another told of afriend who pockets the money her husband gives her for a housekeeper and does the cleaningherself.

一位女性說，剛結婚那會兒，她總是叫外賣食物，然後在老公下班之前把它們倒進鍋裏，裝成自己做的一樣。另一位女性說，她把老公送給自己的一對鑽石耳環丟了一隻，時隔三年之後纔對老公坦白。(每次老公問她爲什麼不戴那對耳環的時候，她總是說耳環戴起來有點疼。)還有一位女性則說，她有一位朋友，總是把老公讓她付給清潔工的錢納入自己腰包，然後自己打掃衛生。

Many women I spoke with seemed almost proud of the cleverness of their shams. So why wouldn'tany men cop to stretching the truth from time to time? Intrigued, I asked them.

和我交談過的許多女性似乎都對她們高明的扯謊技巧感到近乎沾沾自喜。那麼，爲什麼男人不去時不時地追根究底，逼迫自己的另一半說出真話呢?出於好奇，我對他們進行了採訪。

The answers poured in. (Promising anonymity helped.)

答案多極了。(答應他們這是匿名採訪顯然幫上了忙。)

'What don't men lie about?' quipped one man I asked.

我問的一位男性諷刺地說，“有什麼男人不說謊的事嗎?”

'For men, all lies are big,' explained another.

另一位男性解釋道，“對於男人，所有的謊言都是彌天大謊。”

'I don't lie. I tell the truth . . . slowly,' said a third.

又一位男性說，“我不說謊。我說真話. . . . . .慢慢地說出來。”

And there were others: 'Guys constantly feel like they are being called into the principal's 's why we lie.'

還有其它版本。“男人總是感覺他們像是被叫進了校長辦公室。那就是我們爲什麼老是說謊的原因。”

'Most of my buddies tell very large white lies, and in order to really keep the peace, those cannotbe disclosed!'

“我的大多數朋友說的都是沒有惡意的大謊話，因爲爲了真正維持和睦相處，那些事情可不能說出來!”

'It's not a lie if you believe it ('Seinfeld's George Costanza).'

“如果你相信的話，那就不是謊言了。”(出自《宋飛正傳》(Seinfeld )裏的喬治•克斯坦薩(GeorgeCostanza))

Pressed for specifics, my male sources finally owned up to fudging the truth about working late (tomeet friends at a bar, sneak in a ballgame or take a walk alone). They also said they fibbed abouthow much they drank at a party, how fast they drive, whether they find their female friendsattractive, how much they like their significant other's cooking or outfits -- 'After she's changed 10times, you'll say yes to anything to get out the door' -- and yard work.

在我一再追問細節的情況下，我的這些男性消息來源終於支支吾吾地開了口，承認他們經常在加班這件事上說謊(名爲加班，其實是爲了跟朋友在酒吧見面，偷偷溜出去打球，或者獨自散會兒步。)他們還說，關於在聚會上喝了多少酒，開車有多快，是否覺得自己的女性朋友很吸引人，有多喜歡自己另一半的廚藝或者着裝等等，他們也都撒過謊。“在她換了10套衣服後，如果你還想出門的話，只能說好極了。”

'I sometimes fib about trimming limbs off the trees in the yard,' says a small-business owner inKentucky, who admits he's been known to go overboard with a handsaw. 'I tried to tie it to cropcircles once, but I really don't think she bought it.'

肯塔基州一位小企業主表示，“我有時候會在修剪樹枝的事情上撒點小謊。”他承認自己一拿起手鋸就有些沒完沒了。“有一次，我跟她說那是神祕圓圈的一部分，但我覺得她沒有買賬。”

Two weeks ago, he sawed off a limb, leaving a huge white stump. Desperate to hide the evidence,he climbed a ladder with a brown magic marker and colored the wood in. 'She never saw it!' hesays proudly.

兩週前，他把一根大樹枝鋸掉了，留下了很大的一個白色殘段。爲了掩蓋證據，他爬上了梯子，用棕色的神奇標記筆給樹枝上了色。“她壓根兒就沒發現!”他得意地說。

OK, just hold on a moment. Doesn't anyone remember Pinocchio? The Bible? Their mom? Lying isbad, especially when the recipient is your life partner. Do I really have to explain this?

嗯，等一等。難道沒有人記得起匹諾曹(Pinocchio)了嗎?《聖經》(Bible)?還有媽媽的教誨?說謊是不好的，尤其是說謊的對象還是你的終生伴侶。我真的需要對此做出解釋嗎?

So why is everyone so busy manipulating the truth -- even if they don't always consider it lying?

那麼，爲什麼大家都在忙着操控真相呢──雖然他們並不總是認爲這是撒謊?

'It's a matter of survival,' says Ed Dunkelblau, a psychologist and director of the Institute forEmotionally Intelligent Learning in Northbrook, Ill. 'If you don't fib, you don't live.'

伊利諾伊州諾思布魯克的情商學習學院(Institute for Emotionally Intelligent Learning)的心理學家和主任愛德(Ed Dunkelblau)說，這是爲了生存。如果你不說謊，你就無法活下去。

In other words, sometimes lies -- at least the little ones -- can help our relationships.

換言之，有時候撒謊──至少是無關痛癢的小謊──可以有助於兩人的關係。

For starters, they allow us to avoid conflict. That's why James Carbonara told his then-girlfriend hehad to take clients to dinner (he was playing poker with buddies), ate turkey sandwiches for lunch(he preferred burgers and pizza) and craved iced tea (he needed an excuse to get out of thehouse to sneak an occasional cigarette). 'The No. 1 reason guys lie is so that women don't getmad,' says Mr. Carbonara, a 28-year-old investor-relations officer in New York.

首先，謊言使我們避免衝突。這正是詹姆斯(James)爲何要告訴他的女友他必須和客戶共進晚餐(其實是在和朋友打撲克)，午餐吃的是火雞三明治(其實他更喜歡漢堡和比薩餅)，想喝冰茶(其實是找個藉口走出屋子偷偷抽根菸)。這位紐約市28歲的投資者關係代表說，“男人撒謊的第一大理由就是避免讓女人生氣。”

For Tanner Lenart, a little lying has prevented a lot of arguing during her five-year marriage. Theproblem? Her husband's favorite T-shirts, which have holes and no arms (he cut them off). 'I amsure they are very useful when you are working in the brush in Texas, but they have no place inour cute little neighborhood in Salt Lake City,' says Ms. Lenart, 30, a law student.

對於坦納•雷納特(Tanner Lenart)來說，撒點小謊讓她五年的婚姻生活避免了很多爭吵。問題何在?她老公最喜歡的T恤衫，上面有很多小洞，而且沒有袖子(他把袖子剪掉了)。現年30歲、正在法學院讀書的雷納特女士說，“我肯定這樣的T恤衫在德克薩斯州的樹林裏工作時非常有用，但是它們跟我們位於鹽湖城的可愛社區一點也不搭調。”

So she hides the T-shirts, including one from an asphalt company and a 'screaming green' onefrom a scuba shop in Oahu. When her husband asks if she's seen them, she says no.

因此，她把這些T恤衫藏了起來，包括一件來自某家瀝青公司和一件來自瓦胡島某家潛水店的剎綠色T恤衫。當她老公問她是否看見過那些T恤衫的時候，她就說沒看到。

Joshua Lenart takes the deception in stride. 'As long as she doesn't throw them away, it's OK,' saysthe 31-year-old university English teaching assistant. 'I'll look under the bed or behind the dresser,make sure they get washed, and put them back into rotation.'

約書亞•雷納特(Joshua Lenart)則對老婆的欺騙睜隻眼閉隻眼。這位31歲的大學英語教師助理說，“只要她沒有把T恤衫扔掉，我就無所謂。”“我會找找牀下，或者衣櫃後面，看看T恤衫是不是洗乾淨了，然後繼續輪換着穿。”

Fibs can help us protect a loved one, as Sadie Alexander of Paris, Texas, can attest. She concocteda doozy to get her husband to see the doctor. He had a hernia in his testicle, but was too scaredto get it checked. For two years, she says, he ignored it and it kept growing.

正如德克薩斯州巴黎的塞迪•亞歷山大(Sadie Alexander)可以證實的那樣，一點小謊還能幫助我們保護愛人。爲了讓老公去看醫生，她自己就編造了一個謊言。亞歷山大先生的睾丸上長了一個突起，但是因爲過於害怕，他不願接受檢查。她說，兩年的時間，他對之不管不顧，任由它慢慢長大。

So one night after the kids went to bed, she sat him down on the deck and told him she'd had acheckup that day. 'If there's a little lump in my breast, it's probably nothing, right?' she asked him.

因此，一天晚上等孩子們都上牀睡覺了之後，她把他叫到露臺上坐下，告訴他，自己當天做了個檢查。“如果我的胸部有個小腫塊，那可能沒什麼，是吧?”她問他。

'He went ballistic,' says Ms. Alexander, 35. She says her husband bellowed about how he couldn'tlive without her and insisted she go to a doctor immediately. She let him rant for a while. Then shecalmly told him, 'I didn't say I had a lump in my breast. I said, 'If I did, should I see a specialist?' Youare the one with a lump. And the doctor says it could kill you.'

“他馬上大呼小叫起來，” 現年35歲的亞歷山大女士說。她說老公咆哮着說，如果沒有她，他根本無法活下去，並堅持讓她立即去看醫生。她讓他發泄了一會兒。接着，她平靜地告訴他，“我並沒有說自己胸部有個腫塊。我說的是，‘如果我有的話，我應不應該去看醫生?’你是那個有了腫塊的人。而醫生說，它有可能讓你喪命。”

'It worked like a charm,' says Ms. Alexander. Her husband agreed to see a doctor and had surgeryseveral weeks later to repair the hernia. (He declined to be interviewed.)

亞歷山大女士說，“這個小手腕像魔法一樣有效。”她的老公同意去看醫生，並在幾周後接受手術，突起的地方也痊癒了。(亞歷山大先生謝絕接受採訪。)

OK, that's a bit extreme. But, let's face it, there are some things we are always going to fib aboutto the people we love.

嗯，這有點極端。不過，讓我們面對現實，在某些事上我們總會對自己的愛人撒謊。

'We all want to be truthful, but there is such a thing as tact,' says Wayne Wilson, a retired financialexecutive in Seattle. When his wife asks how she looks, he always tells her she is beautiful. 'A badhair day isn't going to change your life,' says Mr. Wilson, 64. 'What's to be gained by sayingsomething negative to someone that is of such fleeting importance?'

西雅圖的退休財務管理人士韋恩•威爾遜(Wayne Wilson)表示，“我們都想說實話，但是這也有技巧。”當他的老婆問他她看起來怎麼樣的時候，他總是說，她很美。現年64歲的威爾遜說，誰一輩子沒有一兩天看上去不那麼精神呢?對一個在你生命中如此重要的人說些不好的話，你又能得到什麼呢?

His wife says she is just fine with his confession. 'After 15 years of marriage, we both realize thatmaybe we have exaggerated at times,' says Tamara Wilson, 48, who owns a public-relationsagency.

他的妻子，現年48歲、擁有一家公關公司的塔瑪拉•威爾遜(Tamara Wilson)說，“在經過15年婚姻後，我們都意識到自己有時候可能會比較誇張。”

Her standard lie? 'Oh, you're so strong.'

她標準的謊言是什麼?“哦，你還是這麼威猛。”