英六成情侶感情生活不如意

It's perhaps inevitable that some of the romance will go out of a relationship as time passes.

And for some couples that spontaneity is replaced by a steady and deepening affection.

But not for as many as we would like to think. In fact, most couples are unhappy in their relationship, say researchers.

More than six out of ten adults in a relationship admit there is a lot they could do to improve their love life - and four out of ten admit they have considered leaving their partner. One in ten no longer even trusts their partner.

A study of 3,000 couples also showed a lack of sex, spontaneity, affection and romance makes it hard to maintain a loving relationship.

In fact, most couples only rate their sex life as being six out of ten - and 25 per cent claim activity in the bedroom is more perfunctory than perfect.

More than half of those polled said their partner was no longer the 'affectionate and giving' person they were when they first started dating.

And for 33 percent acts of spontaneity - such as booking romantic trips away, cooking a favorite meal or bursting in with a bouquet of flowers - are all but dead-and-gone.

'The sad fact of the matter is that when people first start dating, they go to great lengths to appeal to each other by being sexy, romantic and giving,' said David Brown of website .

'But once that honeymoon period is over, it is all too easy to start taking each other for granted. Once couples fall in love and settle down, they fall out of the habit of making an effort.'

The survey also revealed 13 per cent of couples no longer want the same things for the future and 19 per cent don't give each other enough time or attention. For 16 per cent a lack of time to talk is a bone of contention, whereas 7 per cent simply don't fancy each other any more.

Half of those questioned believed they were stuck in a rut with their sex life and had no idea how to re-create the passion they once enjoyed.

兩個人在一起時間久了，感情不可避免地會趨於平淡。

對於有些情侶而言，最初的那種激情逐漸變成穩定、深厚的感情。

不過這樣的情侶並沒有我們想象得那麼多。研究人員日前稱，其實大多數情侶的感情生活並不快樂。

調查顯示，在處於戀愛關係的成年人中，超過60%的人承認自己的愛情生活有待改善，四成受訪者坦稱他們已經考慮離開自己的伴侶。十分之一的人甚至不再信任他們的伴侶。

這項調查有3000對情侶參與，調查結果顯示，性生活乏味、主動性差、缺少溫情和浪漫是感情難以維持的主要原因。

從實際情況看，多數情侶僅給自己的性生活打6分（滿分10分），而25%的人稱自己的性生活更多的只是例行公事。

超過一半的受訪者說，他們的伴侶不再像約會之初那麼“充滿柔情和樂於付出”。

而對於33%的受訪者而言，戀愛之初的那些浪漫之舉都已消失殆盡，如預訂浪漫之旅、做愛心大餐或手捧一束花突然出現在你面前等等。

英國交友網站的戴維•布朗說：“可悲的是，當人們剛開始約會時，他們都會努力表現出自己性感、浪漫和樂於付出的一面，以達到吸引對方的目的。”

“但這段蜜月期一旦結束，他們就開始不那麼上心了。兩人一旦墜入愛河、感情穩定下來，就不再努力了。”

此外，調查還表明，13%的情侶不再對未來抱有同樣的期望，19%的人沒有給彼此足夠的時間或關心。16%的人缺乏交流，而7%的人壓根就不愛對方了。

一半的受訪者認爲，他們現在的性生活枯燥乏味，不知道如何才能重燃兩人過去的那種激情。

Vocabulary:

spontaneity: the quality of being spontaneous 自發性；自然

perfunctory:(of an action) done as a duty or habit, without real interest, attention or feeling（行爲）敷衍的；例行公事般的；潦草的

dead-and-gone:死去

go to great lengths: 竭盡全力

fall out of: 放棄

bone of contention: 爭論的焦點，爭論的起因

be stuck in a rut: 對老一套感到枯燥乏味