15大信號表明在我們身邊的都是好朋友(1)
An old saying goes, “Surround yourself with the people you want to be like.” Successful people want to surround themselves with successful people. Optimists like to be around optimists. How can you tell if you’re hanging around with the right group of friends for you? Here are 15 signs that you are surrounded by good friends who care about you and not just what you can do for them!
俗話說得好，“你想成爲什麼樣的人，就和什麼樣的人待在一起。” 成功人士都想和成功人士待在一起。樂觀主義者希望身邊的人都是樂觀主義者。你怎麼能知道自己身邊的朋友是適合自己的？下面的這15個信號能告訴你，不只是你關心朋友，身邊的朋友也關心你。
你的朋友傾聽你
A good friend can tell when you need an ear, or just to take the floor for a few minutes and talk something out. More importantly still, they help you determine where you have good, solid, actionable ideas and where they think you’re a little off base.
好朋友能知道你什麼時候需要傾聽，或知道你只是需要幾分鐘，把一些話說出來。更重要的是，他們能幫你判斷什麼時候你的想法是好的、可靠的、可行的，什麼時候你的想法是錯誤的。
你的朋友關心你
Good friends take the time to ask about your life, your interests, and your opinions. They also take the time to be there when you need them, and want to help you be the best person you can be.
好朋友會花時間去詢問你的生活、你的興趣和你的觀點。他們在你需要的時候抽出時間陪着你，想幫助你，讓你成爲最棒的你。
你的朋友知道什麼時候爲你準備聚會
There’s nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam, celebrating a milestone, or just making an event happen “because.” A group of friends who are really in tune with your needs know exactly when and how to party without taking it to extremes or getting you involved with anything illegal or uncomfortable.
有時發泄一下放鬆放鬆、或爲具有里程碑意義的事件慶祝一下、或沒什麼原因就慶祝一下沒什麼大不了。真正懂得你需要的朋友能明確知道什麼時間組織、如何組織聚會而不過分，不會讓你捲入不合法或不舒心的事情中。
你的朋友知道何時該結束聚會
Even the best party has to end eventually, and good friends can tell when it’s time to leave. If someone’s getting drunk and belligerent, or you’ve been yawning for the last half hour, they will understand it’s time to call it a night and leave gracefully.
即使是最好的聚會也終會落幕，好朋友能知道該何時離開。如果有人醉了且好戰，或最後的半小時你一直在打哈欠，他們會明白該結束了並優雅地離開。
你能感覺到朋友把你的利益掛在心上
You may not always agree with what your friends say or their perceptions of a situation. However, they’re always thinking of what’s best for you in the long run. This can be a tricky line to walk, and sometimes you have an obligation to ignore the advice of others. Nevertheless, a good friend will be less worried about sparing your feelings than looking out for you.
你可能不會總是同意朋友所說的話或朋友對問題的看法。然而從長遠看，他們總是考慮如何做對你是最好的。這樣做很微妙，有時你就該忽略他人的建議。然而，比起照顧你的情緒，好朋友會更多地爲你着想。
你的朋友支持你
Even when you do something your friends don’t agree with, if they’re really good friends, they will support whatever you decide to do, within reason. They may not agree or like what you’re doing, like moving across the country to snag a good-paying job, but they’ll be there with the pizza and beer while you load up the truck!
即使是你做了一些朋友不同意的事情，如果他們真的是你的好朋友，無論你做什麼決定，只要在合理的範圍內，他們都會支持你的。他們可能不同意或不喜歡你現在做的事情，比如在全國各地跑來跑去，去找一份高薪的工作，但是當你上了車後，他們會拿着比薩和啤酒在那裏等着你。
你總是會從他們嘴裏聽到真相
Good friends don’t lie. (Except on rare occasions of the “Does this dress make me look fat?” sort. Those kinds of lies don’t count, because they are intended to spare your feelings.) When the chips are down and you really need to be told the truth, your friends may hate it…but they’ll do it. This applies in situations like when your friends tell you maybe you’re partying a little too much or working too hard. If they tell you something like this, they’re speaking from the heart. You owe it to them and your friendship to listen.
好朋友不會騙你。（除非是那種“這件衣服是不是讓我看起來很胖？”這樣偶爾出現的情況。這種謊言不算，因爲他們是爲了照顧你的感受。）當到了關鍵時刻，你真的需要知道真相時，你的朋友也許會討厭那樣做……但是他們還是會那樣做。還有的時候你的朋友告訴你，你聚會的次數也許太多了或工作太賣力。如果他們對你說類似的話，他們是真心的。你要多謝他們並要認真傾聽。
俗話說得好，“你想成爲什麼樣的人，就和什麼樣的人待在一起。” 成功人士都想和成功人士待在一起。樂觀主義者希望身邊的人都是樂觀主義者。你怎麼能知道自己身邊的朋友是適合自己的？下面的這15個信號能告訴你，不只是你關心朋友，身邊的朋友也關心你。
你的朋友傾聽你
A good friend can tell when you need an ear, or just to take the floor for a few minutes and talk something out. More importantly still, they help you determine where you have good, solid, actionable ideas and where they think you’re a little off base.
好朋友能知道你什麼時候需要傾聽，或知道你只是需要幾分鐘，把一些話說出來。更重要的是，他們能幫你判斷什麼時候你的想法是好的、可靠的、可行的，什麼時候你的想法是錯誤的。
你的朋友關心你
Good friends take the time to ask about your life, your interests, and your opinions. They also take the time to be there when you need them, and want to help you be the best person you can be.
好朋友會花時間去詢問你的生活、你的興趣和你的觀點。他們在你需要的時候抽出時間陪着你，想幫助你，讓你成爲最棒的你。
你的朋友知道什麼時候爲你準備聚會
There’s nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam, celebrating a milestone, or just making an event happen “because.” A group of friends who are really in tune with your needs know exactly when and how to party without taking it to extremes or getting you involved with anything illegal or uncomfortable.
有時發泄一下放鬆放鬆、或爲具有里程碑意義的事件慶祝一下、或沒什麼原因就慶祝一下沒什麼大不了。真正懂得你需要的朋友能明確知道什麼時間組織、如何組織聚會而不過分，不會讓你捲入不合法或不舒心的事情中。
你的朋友知道何時該結束聚會
Even the best party has to end eventually, and good friends can tell when it’s time to leave. If someone’s getting drunk and belligerent, or you’ve been yawning for the last half hour, they will understand it’s time to call it a night and leave gracefully.
即使是最好的聚會也終會落幕，好朋友能知道該何時離開。如果有人醉了且好戰，或最後的半小時你一直在打哈欠，他們會明白該結束了並優雅地離開。
你能感覺到朋友把你的利益掛在心上
You may not always agree with what your friends say or their perceptions of a situation. However, they’re always thinking of what’s best for you in the long run. This can be a tricky line to walk, and sometimes you have an obligation to ignore the advice of others. Nevertheless, a good friend will be less worried about sparing your feelings than looking out for you.
你可能不會總是同意朋友所說的話或朋友對問題的看法。然而從長遠看，他們總是考慮如何做對你是最好的。這樣做很微妙，有時你就該忽略他人的建議。然而，比起照顧你的情緒，好朋友會更多地爲你着想。
你的朋友支持你
Even when you do something your friends don’t agree with, if they’re really good friends, they will support whatever you decide to do, within reason. They may not agree or like what you’re doing, like moving across the country to snag a good-paying job, but they’ll be there with the pizza and beer while you load up the truck!
即使是你做了一些朋友不同意的事情，如果他們真的是你的好朋友，無論你做什麼決定，只要在合理的範圍內，他們都會支持你的。他們可能不同意或不喜歡你現在做的事情，比如在全國各地跑來跑去，去找一份高薪的工作，但是當你上了車後，他們會拿着比薩和啤酒在那裏等着你。
你總是會從他們嘴裏聽到真相
Good friends don’t lie. (Except on rare occasions of the “Does this dress make me look fat?” sort. Those kinds of lies don’t count, because they are intended to spare your feelings.) When the chips are down and you really need to be told the truth, your friends may hate it…but they’ll do it. This applies in situations like when your friends tell you maybe you’re partying a little too much or working too hard. If they tell you something like this, they’re speaking from the heart. You owe it to them and your friendship to listen.
好朋友不會騙你。（除非是那種“這件衣服是不是讓我看起來很胖？”這樣偶爾出現的情況。這種謊言不算，因爲他們是爲了照顧你的感受。）當到了關鍵時刻，你真的需要知道真相時，你的朋友也許會討厭那樣做……但是他們還是會那樣做。還有的時候你的朋友告訴你，你聚會的次數也許太多了或工作太賣力。如果他們對你說類似的話，他們是真心的。你要多謝他們並要認真傾聽。
