15大信號 在我們身邊的都是好朋友

An old saying goes, “Surround yourself with the people you want to be like.” Successful people want to surround themselves with successful people. Optimists like to be around optimists. How can you tell if you’re hanging around with the right group of friends for you? Here are 15 signs that you are surrounded by good friends who care about you and not just what you can do for them!
俗話說得好，“你想成爲什麼樣的人，就和什麼樣的人待在一起。” 成功人士都想和成功人士待在一起。樂觀主義者希望身邊的人都是樂觀主義者。你怎麼能知道自己身邊的朋友是適合自己的？下面的這15個信號能告訴你，不只是你關心朋友，身邊的朋友也關心你。

1. Your friends listen to you
你的朋友傾聽你

A good friend can tell when you need an ear, or just to take the floor for a few minutes and talk something out. More importantly still, they help you determine where you have good, solid, actionable ideas and where they think you’re a little off base.
好朋友能知道你什麼時候需要傾聽，或知道你只是需要幾分鐘，把一些話說出來。更重要的是，他們能幫你判斷什麼時候你的想法是好的、可靠的、可行的，什麼時候你的想法是錯誤的。

2. Your friends care about you
你的朋友關心你

Good friends take the time to ask about your life, your interests, and your opinions. They also take the time to be there when you need them, and want to help you be the best person you can be.
好朋友會花時間去詢問你的生活、你的興趣和你的觀點。他們在你需要的時候抽出時間陪着你，想幫助你，讓你成爲最棒的你。

3. Your friends know when to throw a party
你的朋友知道什麼時候爲你準備聚會

There’s nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam, celebrating a milestone, or just making an event happen “because.” A group of friends who are really in tune with your needs know exactly when and how to party without taking it to extremes or getting you involved with anything illegal or uncomfortable.
有時發泄一下放鬆放鬆、或爲具有里程碑意義的事件慶祝一下、或沒什麼原因就慶祝一下沒什麼大不了。真正懂得你需要的朋友能明確知道什麼時間組織、如何組織聚會而不過分，不會讓你捲入不合法或不舒心的事情中。

4. Your friends know when to end a party
你的朋友知道何時該結束聚會

Even the best party has to end eventually, and good friends can tell when it’s time to leave. If someone’s getting drunk and belligerent, or you’ve been yawning for the last half hour, they will understand it’s time to call it a night and leave gracefully.
即使是最好的聚會也終會落幕，好朋友能知道該何時離開。如果有人醉了且好戰，或最後的半小時你一直在打哈欠，他們會明白該結束了並優雅地離開。

5. You feel like your friends have your best interests at heart
你能感覺到朋友把你的利益掛在心上

You may not always agree with what your friends say or their perceptions of a situation. However, they’re always thinking of what’s best for you in the long run. This can be a tricky line to walk, and sometimes you have an obligation to ignore the advice of others. Nevertheless, a good friend will be less worried about sparing your feelings than looking out for you.
你可能不會總是同意朋友所說的話或朋友對問題的看法。然而從長遠看，他們總是考慮如何做對你是最好的。這樣做很微妙，有時你就該忽略他人的建議。然而，比起照顧你的情緒，好朋友會更多地爲你着想。

6. Your friends support you
你的朋友支持你

Even when you do something your friends don’t agree with, if they’re really good friends, they will support whatever you decide to do, within reason. They may not agree or like what you’re doing, like moving across the country to snag a good-paying job, but they’ll be there with the pizza and beer while you load up the truck!
即使是你做了一些朋友不同意的事情，如果他們真的是你的好朋友，無論你做什麼決定，只要在合理的範圍內，他們都會支持你的。他們可能不同意或不喜歡你現在做的事情，比如在全國各地跑來跑去，去找一份高薪的工作，但是當你上了車後，他們會拿着比薩和啤酒在那裏等着你。

7. You always hear the truth from them
你總是會從他們嘴裏聽到真相

Good friends don’t lie. (Except on rare occasions of the “Does this dress make me look fat?” sort. Those kinds of lies don’t count, because they are intended to spare your feelings.) When the chips are down and you really need to be told the truth, your friends may hate it…but they’ll do it. This applies in situations like when your friends tell you maybe you’re partying a little too much or working too hard. If they tell you something like this, they’re speaking from the heart. You owe it to them and your friendship to listen.
好朋友不會騙你。（除非是那種“這件衣服是不是讓我看起來很胖？”這樣偶爾出現的情況。這種謊言不算，因爲他們是爲了照顧你的感受。）當到了關鍵時刻，你真的需要知道真相時，你的朋友也許會討厭那樣做……但是他們還是會那樣做。還有的時候你的朋友告訴你，你聚會的次數也許太多了或工作太賣力。如果他們對你說類似的話，他們是真心的。你要多謝他們並要認真傾聽。8. Your friends check in on you
你的朋友會經常聯繫你

A good friend cares about the people close to them. If they don’t hear from you periodically, they pick up the phone or even send an email. “Dude, where you at? Everything okay?” This doesn’t mean they constantly worry about you, because sometimes people get sick or busy and life happens. But they do take the time to let you know they’re thinking about you.
好朋友會關心和他們親近的人。如果他們隔了一段時間沒有你的消息，他們會拿起電話，甚至會發送電子郵件。“老兄，你在哪裏？一切還好嗎？” 這並不是說他們會一直擔心你，因爲有時人們會生病或忙碌起來，生活就是這樣。但是他們會拿出時間讓你知道他們在想你。

9. Your friends know when to leave you alone
你的朋友知道什麼時候該讓你獨處

Sometimes you just want (or need) to be left alone. Work assignments, homework, or relationship woes can all leave you feeling like you just need a little downtime to work out your situation. A good friend understands and respects this. They’ll make it clear that they’re available if and when you need them, but they also understand that everyone needs alone time once in a while. Conversely, they also know you well enough to say, “Enough’s enough!” and drag you out of the house by your hair if necessary!
有時，你就是想（或需要）獨處。工作任務、一些重要活動前的準備工作或關係裂痕都會讓你覺得需要時間來想出如何對自己的情況進行處理。好朋友會理解並尊重這一點。他們會讓你知道，當你需要他們的時候，他們會在你身邊，但是他們也明白，每個人時不時地都需要時間獨處。另一方面，他們也非常瞭解你，知道何時說 “夠了！” 並在需要時拉着你的頭髮把你拖出屋子。

10. You don’t feel like you always have to reciprocate
你覺得自己不用總想着回報

A good friendship doesn’t come with a balance sheet. While you should always try to give as good as you get from your friends, that doesn’t mean you or they should feel obligated every single time. The point of a friendship is to be there as much as you can, when you can, to the fullest extent you can. Sometimes that means Jim picks up the beer, while you bring the pretzels. Sometimes Josh throws the party and you pitch in with the cleanup. Sooner or later in a good friendship, the books will balance naturally and intuitively, without either side having to do anything except be themselves.
好的友誼並不需要資產負債表。雖然說朋友對你怎麼好，你就應該對他們怎麼好，但這也不是說你或他們每次都要那樣做。友誼的一大要點就是當可以的時候，儘可能地地付出。有時意味着吉姆拿啤酒，而你帶來椒鹽脆餅。有時喬希開派對，而你負責打掃。在好的友誼中，這遲早會自然地達到平衡，除了做好自己，不需要做任何事情。

11. You can call your friends anytime you need them
任何時候，只要你需要就可以給朋友打電話

Let’s put some rules on “anytime.” This does not mean three in the morning, unless someone is dead! Within reason, however, and during the hours when you KNOW they’ll be awake, you can call and say, “Hey…you got a few minutes? I need an ear.” If they say, “Not now, but let me call you back,” then respect that. If they’re willing to sacrifice time to help you out, it’s only fair that they should be able to do it on their schedule, especially for those who have “real jobs.”
關於“任何時候”有一些要注意的問題。這並不是說早晨三點鐘你就可以打電話，除非有人去世！然而，在合理的情況下，在你知道他們會醒着的時候，你可以打電話給他們，說，“嗯……有空嗎？我需要人聽我傾訴。”如果他們說，“現在不行，但是讓我給你打回去吧，”那麼就等電話吧。如果他們願意抽出時間來幫助你，那最好是按照他們的時間表來做，尤其是對那些有份“真正工作”的人而言。

12. Your friends feel like they can call you when they need you
你的朋友覺得，當他們需要你的時候可以給你打電話

Part of being a good friend is being available, and this applies just as much to you as it does your friends. A friend who feels like you’re available for them when needed is more likely to be there for you when you need them!
成爲好朋友的一部分內容就是可以抽出時間，這適用於你的朋友，同時也適用於你。如果朋友覺得他們需要你的時候你能抽出時間，那麼很有可能當你需要他們的時候，他們也能爲你抽出時間。

13. Your friends celebrate your victories and help you get over your setbacks
你的朋友爲你慶祝勝利，並幫你克服困難

Milestones deserve to be celebrated, and misery loves company. A good friend will congratulate you on your accomplishments and achievements without letting you rest on your laurels. Similarly, a good friend won’t let you wallow in self-pity when things go a little sideways. A good friend will celebrate or commiserate with you as appropriate, always asking the question, “So what’s next?”
具有里程碑意義的事件值得和他人一起慶祝，當你悲慘的時候也需要有人陪伴。好朋友會慶祝你的成就，不會讓你固步自封。同樣，當事情變遭時，好朋友也不會讓你獨自啜泣。好朋友會恰當地和你慶祝或與你分憂，並總會問，“下一步呢？”

14. Your friends see you for who you are
你的朋友知道真實的你

We all wear masks and put on a show in our public lives, whether we choose to admit it or not. A good friend sees beyond the mask or the front and looks at the real person behind them. You can tell a good friend because they’re not afraid to call you out on your front, but they still want to be around you even when what’s behind it isn’t always the nicest, kindest, or best person. A good friend inspires you to be and do better than you are, but cares for you because of who and what you are.
無論我們承認與否，在我們的公共生活中，我們都會戴上面具，表演給人看。好朋友能看透面具後真正的你。 好朋友不怕當面大聲叫你，即使是你不總是最友好、最善良、最好的人， 他們也還是想和你在一起。朋友會激勵你，讓你變得更好，並在乎真正的你。

15. Your friends tell you when you’re making a mistake
當你犯錯的時候朋友會告訴你

No one likes to hear it when they screw up. That’s just human nature. However, a true friend is able to tell you you’re making a mistake without making a federal case of it. People who love you and support you even when they don’t necessarily agree with you are the kind of friends that are worth keeping, no matter where life takes you.
當人們把事情搞砸時都不想聽別人說。這是人類的天性。然而，當你犯錯時，真正的朋友能告訴你，讓你不要犯大錯。好朋友不一定同意你的觀點，但他們仍會愛你、支持你。無論你的生活如何，這樣的朋友都是最值得維繫的。