這些跡象表明你和另一半漸行漸遠

Signs you're growing apart from your partner

這些跡象表明你和另一半漸行漸遠

You choose to share your news with other people instead of your partner

你選擇和其他人而非另一半聊近況

It's very common to run to your partner as soon as you have some important news to share. Whether it's a raise at work or devastating news about your family, there's no one other than your partner that you would typically run to first. If this has started to change, however, Rori Sassoon - relationship expert, co-owner of the upscale matchmaking agency Platinum Poire and frequent dating expert on "The Real Housewives of New York" - told InsideR that you are most likely growing apart from one another.

出大事的時候，你最想和另一半分享，這很常見。無論是加薪還是事關家人的不好消息，你最先想到的就是另一半。然而，如果這一情況開始發生改變，羅裏·薩鬆（Rori Sassoon）——情感專家、高檔婚介機構Platinum Poire的共同擁有人，以及《紐約真正的主婦》節目的常聘約會專家——在接受Insider雜誌採訪時說道，你可能和另一半漸行漸遠了。

"One red flag that you are growing apart is when something good (or bad) happens to you, and you don't want to tell your partner first," she said. "You have other people you would rather share with first and they are no longer your closest person."

“發生好事或壞事時，你第一個想與之分享的人並不是你的另一半，這就是漸行漸遠的危險信號之一，”她說道。“你想先和其他人分享，而另一半也不再是你最親密的人了。”

You no longer want to spend free time with your partner

你不想再和另一半共度閒暇時光

Dreams of a vacation or getting to leave work early usually mean that you are on your way to spending some extra time with your spouse. Though some of those times you may choose to go on a trip with friends or even take some well-needed time for yourself, if you have no desire to spend any of your free time with your partner, it may be time to call it quits.

總想着度假或早點下班？這意味着你馬上就要和另一半在一起共度美好時光了。儘管有時候，你會選擇和朋友去旅行或獨處，但如果你再也不想和另一半共度閒暇時光，最好乾淨利落地分手。

"You'll know that you're growing apart when you have an opportunity to take a vacation or you get some extra free time off from work and your S.O. is not the person that you want to spend your time with," Sassoon said. "Your partner should be the person you want to relax and vacay with - not the person that you need a vacation from."

“當你有機會度假或下班後有空餘時間，但你卻不想和另一半共度，你就會知道，你們正漸行漸遠，”薩鬆說道。“另一半應該是你想與之一起放鬆、一起度假之人——而不應該是你想遠離的人。”

Thoughts of spending life with them are not as strong as they were before

和另一半共度餘生的想法不再如以往那般強烈

Making the choice to be with someone is usually because you see a future with them. And in most cases, it's something that is lifelong. When you start to think of your future and your partner no longer has a place in it though, you may be growing apart.

下決心與某人在一起通常是因爲你覺得和他/她在一起會有未來。大多數情況下，這事關終身。但當你想象未來而另一半卻不在其中時，你們可能已漸行漸遠。