這些跡象或表明另一半出軌大綱
Subtle Signs You've Got a Cheating Spouse
這些跡象或表明另一半出軌
They come home later
晚回家
Are you used to your husband or wife arriving home by 6 p.m. to share a much-needed end-of-day martini or help with dinner, baths, and bedtime? A sudden change in that routine may be a sign of cheating. 'When someone stops coming home at the regular time, be wary,' says dating and relationship advice and etiquette expert April Masini. 'When a schedule changes and there's no comment about why or what he or she is doing differently, it may be because your spouse is cheating on you.' Some people will offer an excuse for their change in routine—like going to the gym late because it’s less crowded, says Masini.
你是否已經習慣了妻子或丈夫下午6點到家，迫不及待地喝一杯馬提尼或幫你做晚餐、給寶寶洗澡、講睡前故事？如果這一日常習慣突然發生了改變，這可能是他/她出軌的前兆。“另一半不再按時回家，你可得注意了，”約會和戀情諮詢禮儀專家阿普利爾·馬希尼（April Masini）說道。“當另一半行程有變，且無法給出不同於以往的解釋時，這可能是因爲他/她出軌了。”有些人會爲自己的日常習慣發生改變做出解釋——比如，很晚纔去健身房，因爲那時候人少，馬希尼說道。
Date night has been replaced by a new guys-only club
男生俱樂部取代了原先的約會之夜
Not cool. Date night is a hallmark of marriage, so when your date night with your spouse disappears, it might be because they're having a date night with someone else. According to Masini, author of Think & Date Like a Man, a more experienced cheating spouse will keep your date night, but end it early because they have a 'work issue' or a 'poker game' that runs until after midnight.
一點都不酷。約會之夜是婚姻的標誌，所以當你們不再約會時，可能是因爲他/她正在和另一個人共度良宵。馬希尼表示，《像男人一樣思考約會》（Think & Date Like a Man）一書的作者，經驗老到的出軌方會繼續和你約會，但會早早結束，因爲他們的‘工作出了問題’或‘有人約牌’，直到午夜纔回來。
They no longer want you to do laundry
他/她不再讓你幫他/她洗衣服
While this sounds like a break for you, this may be one of the signs of cheating. 'When your spouse stops letting you do his or her laundry or drop off his or her dry cleaning, you often have a cheating situation on your hands,' says Masini.'There may be evidence on the clothes or in the pockets, and it's much safer for someone who’s cheating to handle their own laundry and dry cleaning.' She says to pay attention to a spouse who acts like they're doing you a favor because it's more about keeping a secret.
雖然你可能覺得不再洗衣服能讓你輕鬆不少，但這可能是他/她出軌的跡象之一。“當另一半不再讓你幫他/她洗衣服或將自己的衣服送去幹洗，他/她很有可能出軌了，”馬希尼說道。“或許，他/她的衣服或口袋裏留下了證據，所以他/她覺得自己洗或乾洗會更安全。”她表示，如果另一半表現得像在爲你減壓，你可得當心了——他/她做了虧心事的可能性更大。
You found a credit card in your spouse's name you didn't know about
你發現另一半辦了張信用卡卻沒有告訴你
Most married couples have joint accounts or share information about family finances. There are budgets to consider and conversations about spending before a big purchase. 'When you find a credit card, you've got a smoking gun,' Masini says.
大多數已婚夫婦都有聯合賬戶，共享家庭的財務信息。購買大件之前，夫妻雙方需要考慮預算和支出情況。“當你發現他/她辦了信用卡後，這就是他/她出軌的證據，”馬希尼說道。
