另一半永遠不該對你說這些話

Surprise: "You complete me" only works in movies, not real life.

驚喜來了："你讓我變得完整"只會在電影中出現，現實生活中根本不可能。

I DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THIS

我沒時間做這件事

"This comes across very blunt and hurtful, and seems like you don't really want to spend time with your partner. The message underneath is 'you are not that important to me. These other things are more important to me than you.'"

"這句話直言不諱，十分傷人，聽起來就好像你根本不想花時間和另一半在一起似的。隱含的意思就是你對我根本沒那麼重要。其它的事情可比你重要多了。"

OH, GROW UP.

哎，能不能長大點？

"Telling someone they need to grow up is a backhanded way of saying 'You are not where you should be right now.' It's an insulting way telling someone they are not who they need to be for you to love them. And the truth is, love can't foster - let alone thrive."

"和別人說他們需要長大就是拐彎抹角的說'你現在的心智並不符合你的年齡。'這是以一種侮辱人的方式告知他人他們現在的樣子根本不值得你的愛。而真相是，愛情是不能培養的--更別說越來越愛了。"

SHUT UP

閉嘴

"This is not only rude and condescending, it's a clear message that your partner does not want to hear what you have to say. It's also a clear message that your feelings and thoughts don't matter. A good partner will open you up, not shut you down."

"這句話不僅粗魯、傲慢，而且還明確表明另一半完全不想聽你說話。同時也清楚的表明你的感受和想法並不重要。一個好的伴侶能讓你敞開心扉，而不是讓你封閉自己。"

OH, JUST LIKE THE LAST TIME YOU SCREWED UP.

哦，和上次你搞砸時一模一樣。

"When your partner brings in past transgressions into current arguments, especially tangential instances, this shows they are not forgiving. Then you'll feel as if the past will always hang over the relationship and there's no moving forward. This may make you feel like you're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, leading to anxiety and resentment."

"當另一半將過去的爭吵帶入現在的爭論中時，尤其是次要的事情，這就表明他們根本沒有原諒你。之後你會覺得以前的爭論將一直籠罩着你們的感情，你們無法繼續向前。這可能會讓你覺得你在不斷等着下一個難題的出現，讓你感到焦慮和怨恨。"

IT'S A GOOD THING I CAN READ A MAP BECAUSE THIS ONE'S HOPELESS.

還好我知道怎麼看地圖，你真的太沒用了。

"Your partner should never say is anything in a public setting that puts you down. Often times people like to build themselves up but they do it accidentally (or on purpose) at the expense of someone else."

"另一半絕對不能在很多人面前說讓你丟臉的話。很多時候，人們都喜歡消遣別人來樹立自己的高大形象，但他們都是無意的（或是故意的）。"

IT'S NO BIG DEAL.

沒什麼大不了。

"If you have a concern of any kind, having your partner brush it off by saying 'It's no big deal' is definitely a big deal. This shows they have no regard for your feelings. Your feelings should always count."

"如果你很擔心某事，但你的伴侶卻用'沒什麼大不了'來避而不談這個話題，那麻煩可就大了。這就表明他們毫不關心你的感受。但你的感受應該總是重要的。"

I'M GONNA KILL YOU.

我要殺了你。

"This abusive strategy is meant to disarm you and keep you in fear for your life and the life of everyone you hold dear. "

"這一用爛的策略旨在否定你，讓你繼續對自己的生活、對你可親可愛的人的生活充滿恐懼。"