這些男人從前任身上學會了如何約會

Men might not like coming to women to get dating advice, but that's dumb. No one is going to think a man has any less sexual or romantic prowess just because he's looking for some insights from someone who identifies as being female.

男人可能不願意向女性尋求約會建議，這纔是愚蠢之處。沒有人會因爲男人向女人尋求見解而看輕他的性能力或浪漫能力。

If anything, it speaks to your understanding of women as a whole if you're man enough to know that you don't know as much about women as you would like to and that you are willing to do your homework. And what men think about their own prowess will determine their success in dating.

如果有人這麼以爲，那這隻能表明他/她對女性的整體理解有誤。如果你夠man，你就會知道你對女性的瞭解並沒有你所以爲的那麼深，你也會願意做這方面的功課。而男性對自身魅力的看法將決定他們的約會是否成功。

Women see the world differently from men, and while that's part of what makes the man-woman dynamic so much fun, it can also be a source of serious frustration, particularly when it comes to romance.

女性看待世界的方式與男性不同，雖然也因此使得男女搭配的世界如此有趣，但這也可能是極度挫折的導火索，尤其是在浪漫方面。

1. Use your ears.

1. 用耳朵傾聽。

"Sometimes we just want you to listen. Don't try to help, don't try to do anything other than just be there and listen."

"有時候，你只要做到傾聽就行了。別試圖幫助我們，你只要陪着我們、聽我們訴苦，不用做其它事。"

2. Listening is sometimes better than doing.

2. 有時候，聽比做更得人心。

"If I'm thirsty, I don't want you to bring me a glass of water. I want you to sympathize. I want you to say: 'Gloria, I too know what it feels like to be thirsty. I, too, have had a dry mouth.'"

"如果我渴了，我並不需要你給我遞一瓶水。我需要你有同樣的感受。我希望你說：'Gloria，我太清楚口渴是什麼感受了，我也渴的要死。'"

3. Don't try to "win" kissing.

3. 不要潦草親吻。

"Take your time when kissing, it's not a race."

"親吻的時候不要急，又不是比賽。"

4. Learn her body.

4. 瞭解她的身體。

"I had a woman show me the proper way to 'pull' a woman's hair. Another one showed me the sensitivity of the neck and behind the ear. All great stuff. The women love it."

"有位女性給我演示了撥弄女性頭髮的正確方式。另一位給我演示了女性頸部和耳後的敏感度。真是讓我漲知識。女人都喜歡這樣。"

5. Outsource your dating profile.

5. 包裝約會歷史。

"Not so much advice, but my dating profile was more or less created by my female friends. I made mine initially and apparently it was terrible. They did an excellent job."

"沒有太多建議，但我的約會歷史或多或少是由我的女性朋友幫忙編寫的。最初，我自己寫了這方面的經歷，糟糕透頂。女性朋友幫了我不少忙。"

6. Words matter.

6. 言語很重要。

"There's a big difference between a nice guy and a good guy."

"那個傢伙不錯和那個傢伙真好還是存在很大差異的。"

7. Don't try to change her.

7. 不要試圖改變她。

"You can't change a woman's mind, you can only change her mood."

"你無法改變女性的思想，但你可以改變她的心情呀！"