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The dating world is cruel. No matter how much we stress the importance of “inner beauty” and kindness and a sense of humor, looks are undeniably a big asset in the dating game. It’s the dream of every average-looking guy that, having been rejected by a handsome beau, the beautiful woman he admires from afar will realize her error in judgment and take notice of him.
感情的世界一直很殘酷。不管我們怎樣強調“內在美”、以及善良和幽默感有多麼重要，外貌卻無疑是這場遊戲中的巨大優勢。每一個相貌平平的男子都夢想着有一天，自己仰視的女神在被高富帥拒絕後，能夠幡然領悟，然後對自己青眼有加。Well, dream on, because this scenario is highly unlikely, according to newly published research.
然而最新發表的一項研究結果告訴我們：夢終究是夢，幾乎不可能成爲現實。。
The study, which focused on the responses 126 female undergraduates had after romantic rejection, was led by University of Toronto (Canada) psychologist Geoff MacDonald. Researchers found that “rejection by an attractive man also led to derogation of, and distancing from, an unattractive man – even when that unattractive man offered acceptance.” In other words, after being rejected by a hunk, women were found to be more inclined to reject a less attractive man.
這項由加拿大多倫多大學心理學家傑夫•麥克唐納領導的研究調查了126名被男生拒絕的女大學生。研究發現，“在被男神拒絕之後，女生同樣也會輕視或是疏遠長相平平的男生，即使這些男生向她們拋去橄欖枝也是如此”。換言之，被男神拒絕後，女生更容易拒絕其他“路人甲”式的男士。
The likely reason, the researchers write in the journal “Social Psychological and Personality Science”, is that accepting the affection of a “low-status” person “may imply one is of similarly low status,” thus making the pain caused by the initial rejection even worse.
研究者們發表在《社會心理學和社會科學》雜誌上的文章也指出了可能的原因，即接受“劣勢”一方會的情感“可能意味着承認自己也是劣勢一方”，從而加劇了上次被拒的痛苦。The implication here is obvious: Looks are closely associated with status, at least in the dating world.
而這一切背後的含義不言而喻：外表與地位息息相關，至少在感情的世界裏是這樣。Research methodology
研究方法Pacific Standard magazine writes the 126 test subjects were asked to look at two made-up profiles, one of a good-looking guy, the other of an unattractive one. They were told that they could potentially meet these two men at the end of the experiment.
據《太平洋標準》雜誌所寫，126名實驗對象將會看到兩份編造的人員檔案，一份是帥哥，而另一份則長相一般。她們還被告知有可能在實驗最後與兩位男子見面。The women then received feedback from each of the men indicating whether they wanted to meet. The women were then asked to indicate whether they were interested in meeting each man, and rated both in terms of physical attractiveness and romantic appeal.
參與實驗的女性一方面會得到兩名男子是否願意與她們見面的反饋，也會被問及更喜歡與誰見面，並且對兩人的外表魅力和感情吸引力進行評價。Not surprisingly, the women who were rejected by one of the men gave him lower ratings. The researchers think that their reasoning probably went like this: If he doesn’t want me, he can’t be that great anyway.
毫無意外，女生對拒絕自己的男生評價更低。研究人員認爲女生們的邏輯是這樣的：如果他看不上我，那他一定不夠好。Saving face
挽回面子But surprisingly, “participants who were rejected by the attractive man were also relatively uninterested in meeting the unattractive man,” write the researchers. What’s more, they were also more inclined to evaluate the unattractive man harshly.
但是，研究人員同時也指出另一個出人意料的發現，即“被帥哥拒絕之後，參與實驗的女生會對另一個男生也失去興趣。”而且她會在評價這個相貌平平的男生時更加苛刻。What is the reason for this? MacDonald told academic publishing company Sage Publications: “What people want is not immediate acceptance itself, but a sense of assurance that the person is acceptable to the sorts of people they want to be connected to.”
爲何如此呢？麥克唐納對學術出版公司世哲出版社說：“人們想要的並不是一見鍾情，而是“這個人適合繼續發展聯繫”這種確定的感覺。”Isn’t that a bit shallow? As if romance is all about face and what other people think. But of course, the researchers based their conclusion on perceptions of college students.
是不是有點兒膚淺？就像所有的浪漫感情都是看臉或視他人的評價而生一樣，研究人員所有的結論也都是基於大學生的視角產生的。We can console ourselves that, as we grow more mature, we may realize status can be conveyed by means other than physical appearance. Or maybe we will grow more confident and begin to realize true love is more important than the opinions of our peers.
我們也許可以寬慰自己，隨着一個人逐漸成熟，我們也許會意識到，除了外貌之外，還有更多的方式可以展示自己在感情中的地位。亦或者，隨着我們的成長，我們會變得更加自信，相信真愛比別人的看法更重要。
