7種辦法幫你擺脫猶豫不決的苦惱

“People say I’m indecisive, but I don’t know about that.” – George Bush

“Ummm… I’m not sure…” We all suffer from indecision at times. If we are not careful, this can become a debilitating problem which feeds on itself. Indecision is often related to lack of self confidence and a tendency to worry about potential problems. To overcome indecision we need to have the faith to follow our intuition, bearing in mind that sometimes it is not what we do, but rather how we do things that is important.
我們經常覺得自己優柔寡斷，很多時候更像一個雪球，越滾越大。猶豫不決經常是由缺乏自信和多慮引起的，要想客服這種猶豫，我們必須得堅定自己的信念，還要告訴自己做什麼並不重要，重要的是怎麼做。

Both Options Can Work

“Indecision is often worse than wrong action.” – Henry Ford

Sometimes we feel that it is of vital importance to choose the right course of action. We feel that one choice must be the ‘right’ one and the other option ‘wrong’. However, this is often a mistake. What is important is how we make use of our choices. Maybe we have a choice between going to two different places; as long as we have the right attitude we can cultivate happiness wherever we go. If we are constantly worrying about our decision, then we will not be able to enjoy life even if we choose the so called ‘right action’.

任意選擇皆可
很多時候我們會告誡自己，選擇正確有多麼重要，我們告知自己自己選擇的必須是正確的，剩下來的一定是錯誤的。事實上，重要的是，我們要如何利用我們的選擇。

Generate Self Confidence
Indecision often occurs because we lack self confidence and doubt our abilities. Perhaps we would like to take a trial for a sports team, but we fear whether we are good enough. The internal debate becomes about whether we should risk taking the trial. In this case, we should not be worrying about our potential limitations. Instead, we should follow our instinct – we have much less to lose than our mind would admit. If we ignore our misplaced anxieties, it will be easier to follow new choices, without worrying about whether it is worth taking the step.

增加自信
我們常常因爲缺乏自信或不相信自己的能力而猶豫不決，或許我們想過要參加一個足球隊，但我們又害怕自己做的不夠好。於是，內心開始掙扎，我們是不是該冒險去這樣做呢？

Don’t Worry About What Others Expect You To Do

Related to the previous point is the concern about what others may think of our decisions. We all face choices where our instinct is to go one way, but then we worry about what people will think of our decision. We can take the advice of other people, but, if we really feel one course of action is the right choice, that is what we should do. Don’t give too much importance to the opinions of society; it is your life, not theirs.

不要在意別人的想法
與上一點相關，這一點就是我們過於在意別人對我們的期望與想法。我們常常會面臨這樣的窘境，意識的本能讓我們想選這個，而自己又開始擔心別人對我們這個選擇的看法。

Speak With A Friend

Sometimes the indecision can go round our mind in circles, creating a downward spiral of indecision. When this occurs it is good to discuss the problem with a trusty friend. We should not ask the friend to choose for us. But, talking about the issue will help to clarify the problem and get a better perspective; once we have done this it will be easier to choose.

與朋友商討
很多時候，猶豫不決讓我們慢慢地開始消沉，這個時候，最好的方法就是與自己的好朋友促膝長談，讓他們給我們出出主意。

You Won’t Regret Being Kind

If you are having difficulties choosing, consider your motives. Sometimes we want to take a selfish approach, but, some inner conscience is holding us back creating indecision. In these circumstances, we will not regret being kind to others, but, if we act only for our self interest then we often will.

善意的動機
如果你很難抉擇，想想自己的動機。有的時候，我們想自私，但是馬上被自己的良心拉回去了，但是我們永遠不會因爲自己的善良而後悔的。

Set Priorities

In life there are always things that we won’t have time to do. We can’t do everything nor should we try. What is important is to have a clear idea of our priorities – family, relationships, our inner life, sport or whatever. When we are faced with decisions, we can quickly refer to our priorities. Maybe your boss wants you to work overtime – the extra money would be nice, but, if you are clear about prioritizing your family life then it will be much easier to immediately say no. It is not possible to have the best of all worlds. We cannot expect to dedicate everything to our career and also spend quality time with our friends and relatives.

分清主次
人的一生中，有很多事情做不了，很多事情我們連嘗試的時間都沒有。因此我們有必要分清主次。

Nothing Ventured Nothing Gained

Sometimes we become indecisive because our mind is worrying over all the potential problems. Rather than looking at the problems consider the opportunities. An indecisive mind will always pick up on drawbacks of decisions. Focus on the potential of the situation and this will help make your more decisive; when an opportunity comes along go for it.

有得必有失
很多時候，餓哦們猶豫不決是因爲我們我們擔心很多還未發生的事情。因此，不要去考慮還沒發生的問題，先想想它的好的一面。