犯錯後男朋友很生氣,怎麼辦?
Listen To Them
傾聽他的說法This is an easy one but it's also going to be pretty hard because you're probably going to hear all about what you did and it won't be fun. They're going to need to talk about it, air it all out, tell you how it made them feel and you know what? You're going to sit and listen, that is your job at that moment. You're going to want to defend yourself but being aggressive could possibly make the situation worse and while you should tell your side, they get to go first.
說起來容易做起來難，因爲你可能會聽到他'痛訴'你所做的一切，一點兒也不有趣。他們需要談一談，說出心中所想，需要告訴你你犯錯後將他們置於何地。你知道嗎，你得坐下來聽他嘮，這是你當前的任務。你很想爲自己辯解，但如果這時候變得咄咄逼人可能只會讓情況更糟。雖然你也需要說出你的理由，但讓他先說吧。Face them, every part of you should look interested in what they have to say - body language says a lot and if you're turned away or slumped over it's going to come off as if you don't care. Being fully involved in the conversation will help you in the long run as well, absorb it all and remember it the next time something comes along that could cause your partner major upset.
面對他吧，你應該對他所說的話極感興趣--肢體語言能說明很多事情，如果你轉身離開或情緒消沉，男友會覺得你不在乎他。全身心的投入到對話中去，這也有助於長期關係，'吸收'並記住那些可能會導致另一半不爽的事情。
Emotional Validation
情感肯定There's going to have to be a lot of reassurance and letting them know that how they're feeling is warranted and okay. Don't say things like "I'm sorry you feel that way", it implies that the fault lies with them for feeling the way they do, not with you.
你需要一再的保證，讓他知道他生氣是有道理的。不要說這樣的話：'很抱歉你這樣想'，因爲這意味着錯在他們而非在你--誰讓他們這樣想呢。You would want to be heard and told that you have every right to the emotions you're feeling; it sucks so much to have someone who has hurt you ignore how you're feeling and brush it off as if it's not important so don't do that to your partner. But remember, acknowledging your partner's emotions will not make them magically go away; they're still going to need time to process and deal with everything so give them time to work it out.
你希望他能傾聽你，希望他對你說'你有權利這樣感受'。某人傷害你之後卻忽略你的感受，輕而易舉的帶過這件事，這種感覺非常糟糕，就好像你一點都不重要似的，所以不要對另一半做這樣的事情。但請記住，認可另一半的感受並不會讓生氣感奇蹟般的消失，另一半仍舊需要時間去消化、處理所有的一切，所以給他們一點兒時間。Apologize and Mean It
真心道歉First and most importantly, show them by not doing what you did to upset them in the first place, this goes back to validating their feelings on everything and shows that you know you did wrong.
最重要的是，一開始就不該做讓他們不高興的事情，所以又回到第二點，你需要肯定他們：生氣是對的，並表明知道自己做錯了。
