閨蜜討厭我的男朋友,我該怎麼辦?
1.) Ask them why they feel this way
1.) 詢問她們爲什麼會有這種感受
They might not have reasons for hating him that make any sense, and you might really have a tough time during this conversation. That's okay. It's not going to be that enjoyable for you (or for your friends). What matters is that you're listening and that you're not just telling your friends that because they say that they hate your boyfriend, you're never going to talk to them again.
閨蜜討厭男朋友的理由或許並無意義，這樣的對話可能會讓你十分煎熬。不過沒關係。於你或朋友而言，這樣的對話本身就不愉快。重要的是你在傾聽朋友的感受，而不是告訴她：就是因爲她討厭你的男朋友，你就要和她斷交。
Chances are, you don't want to ruin your friendships over this. That would really be a shame. Remember that friends have different personalities and likes and dislikes. That's what makes friendship so interesting. We don't have to agree all of the time.
你可能並不想讓這件事破壞你們的友誼。如果真的發生這種情況，那就太可惜了。你要記住，朋友的性格和喜惡不盡相同。所以，友誼纔會如此有趣啊！不一定非得事事達成一致。
2.) Tell them that you love him and they need to accept that
2.) 告訴閨蜜你愛他的事實，請她們接受這一點
If your friends hate your boyfriend, that doesn't mean that you have to hate him and break up with him. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, right? It's possible that they're envious of you, especially if they're single or not happy in their own relationship. They could be projecting their feelings onto you.
如果你的朋友討厭你的男朋友，這並不意味着你也得討厭他，和他分手。人人都有話語權，對不？很有可能她們只是嫉妒你，當她們單身或戀情不幸時更是如此。她們可能把自己的感受強加到了你身上。
When you're in this situation, here's something that you should definitely do: tell your friends that you love your boyfriend and that they need to accept that. They might roll their eyes and say that they still don't think that you should be dating him, but that's okay. You don't need to change their minds (and you most likely can't since sometimes, when we have our minds made up about a friend's boyfriend, that's it).
若處於這一境地，你必須這麼做：告訴你的閨蜜你愛你的男朋友，請她們接受這一事實。她們可能會翻白眼，還是認爲你不應該再繼續和他約會，但沒有關係，因爲你無需改變她們的想法。
It's not ideal and you wish that they loved him as much as you do. You wish that they would say that they love seeing you so happy and that they understand exactly what you see in him. Unfortunately, that's not what is happening, and it's a good idea to remember that what matters is that you love him.
雖然這不是理想狀況，因爲你希望閨蜜也能像你那樣喜歡你的男朋友。你希望聽到她們說，看到你這麼開心，她們十分歡喜，她們也理解你看上他的原因。但不幸的是，事實並非如此，你只要記住你愛他，那就夠了。
3.) At the same time, accept how they feel
3.) 同時，接受她們的感受
You're not going to want to do this. You'll tell your boyfriend that it's unfair and you think that your friends are being unreasonable and that it doesn't make any sense. But when your friends hate your boyfriend, this is another thing that you can do: accept how they feel.
你不想這麼做。你會告訴你的男朋友這並不公平，你覺得你的朋友在無理取鬧，毫無道理可言。但當閨蜜討厭男朋友時，你還可以這麼做：接受她們的感受。
