出軌的常見原因

Communication can be a trigger.

溝通是導火線。

Perhaps one of the most common reasons someone is faithless in a relationship can be traced back to a lack of open communication between partners. Being open about both the good and the bad things in a relationship means both partners feel safe expressing their emotions and sexual desires. This, in turn, can help foster a strong connection, which can help you through any unforeseen rough patches, and let's be honest, every couple has them. And, don't forget, communication takes two people.

也許談戀愛時某人不忠的最爲常見的原因之一可以追溯到雙方之間缺乏開誠佈公的交流。戀愛時敞懷談論好事與壞事意味着戀愛雙方都能安全地表達自己的情緒和性慾。這反過來，就會增強戀人的紐帶，有助於你們度過無法預料的難關。說實話，每一對情侶都會遇到障礙。別忘了，溝通是需要兩個人的。

"Communication is often the common and surprising theme behind infidelity; the person cheating is, in a very unconscious way, letting the world know about their unhappiness or dissatisfaction," McRitchie said. "It is a way to express themselves in a way that feels perversely safer than using words."

"溝通往往是出軌背後常見的、令人震驚的原因；出軌之人在以一種無意識的方式向世人表達自己的不幸和不滿，"McRitchie說道。"他們以這種方式表達自己，比用語言表達更爲安全。"

McRitchie continued, saying "communication is not just the art of speaking - it is also the art of listening without prejudice or defense" and not knowing how to communicate within a relationship can lead to dissatisfaction.

McRitchie繼續道"溝通不僅僅是說話的藝術--也是不帶偏見或不帶防禦的傾聽藝術"，而戀愛時不知如何溝通則會導致不滿。

She compared this to how a "misunderstood toddler or teen will act out" and said cheating is a person's way of expressing discontent due to a lack of communication. "Some people will turn to drugs or alcohol, some work, some will stay out late, others will cheat - and the effect can be devastating."

她將其與"被誤解的幼兒或青少年會作何舉動"相比較，並稱出軌是一個人由於缺少交流而表達不滿的方式。"有些人會選擇嗑藥或喝酒，有些人選擇拼命工作，有些人選擇熬夜，其他人則會出軌--後果是毀滅性的。"

People can cheat out of malice.

由於怨恨而出軌。

Anger is another common reason people often choose to be disloyal in a relationship. While they might be getting off sexually, McRitchie said infidelity can be used out of vengeance, not passion.

憤怒是人們出軌的又一常見理由。雖然出軌可能是肉體上的，但McRitchie表示，出軌可能是由於報復而非激情所致。

"In this case … anger is being suppressed and then released in the act of cheating - offering a Feeling of satisfaction beyond the sexual; the feeling of power and control - and the knowledge that the other person is being punished without realizing is for some people a cruel and unusual way of punishing them."

"在這種情況下，憤怒被抑制了，然後以出軌的形式釋放出來--給人超越性的滿足感、權力感和控制感--知道另一半在不知情的情況下受到了懲罰對於某人而言是殘酷的，也是懲罰他們的不同尋常的方式。"

Loneliness can be destructive.

孤獨的後果是具有破壞性的。

Feeling lonely, especially as a part of a couple, can feel isolating - and that isolation can make people do some out-of-character things like, you know, cheat on their partners, no matter how loving.

感覺孤獨，尤其是談戀愛的時候，會讓你感到與世隔離--這種隔離感會讓人做一些不合情理的事情，比如，出軌（不管自己是否深愛另一半）。